This Mom Ran Out Of Vacation Days, Asked Her Kid-Free Coworker To Give Her Some, And Now The Co-Worker Is Asking If She's An A**hole For Saying No

'Her justification is that I’m childless and don’t need that many days...'

12/2/2021 4:00:00 AM

“Her justification is that I’m childless and don’t need that many days...”

'Her justification is that I’m childless and don’t need that many days...'

Tap to play or pause GIFABCThe 27-year-old now wants to know if she's the asshole for not giving her days to the mom.Tap to play or pause GIFTap to play or pause GIFBounceThe majority consensus among Reddit users is that the 27-year-old is NOT the asshole:

"I’m not a fan of entitled parents who think that just because you don’t have children you are somehow less worthy and lay a guilt trip. Like lady, they're your kids and their dreams are for you to sort not everybody else’s."—"Your co-worker is just awful for feeling entitled to YOUR days because

shechose to be a mother. Nothing makes me angrier than a mother like that. Your life matters as much as hers. YOU are as important as she is."—AnonymousSome proposed she sell the PTO days to her coworker:"Those days off are part of your paycheck. If she wants them, you'll be more than happy to

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SELLher some at let's say 1/2 your normal hourly wage (or what your hourly rate would be if you divided a yearly salary up in 40 hours per week sections)?"—"If you're willing, you could offer to 'sell' them to her. But you have no obligation whatsoever to part with PTO days YOU earned. And she's awful for trying to make you feel guilty about it."

—AnonymousAnd others felt like the problem could be solved if the company had a better sick leave/bereavement policy. There were also people who questioned the mom's honesty about what she used her PTO for since she could have taken sick days when her daughter was ill:

"It's unfortunate that your work doesn't extend its sick leave policy to include bereavement for immediate family. That is where this should really be fixed."—u/AceStarflyer"She should have used sick time for the earlier events. It is not on you that she didn't manage her time more wisely and you did, this is YOUR vacation time and you are entitled to use it how you chose! You deserve a vacation too, not just people with children."

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—Anonymous"The OP has commented that sick days can be used for a child with a doctor's note, that seems fair."—u/girlwithdog_79A good amount of people thought the ability to give away vacation days is absurd to begin with:"It's a really messed up policy to allow coworkers to peer pressure each other into gifting straight-up vacation. My job allows donations of sick leave, but vacation is not giftable."

—"Can someone explain to me why people can give others their vacation days? That makes no sense to me."—u/mollyme123However, there were people who shared their experiences with giftable PTO and even appreciated the ability to do so under certain circumstances:

"I have kids and donated some of my time to a co-worker whose husband was dealing with cancer so she could stay home with him.When my daughter got sick, just before my wife was scheduled for surgery, she was able to use some time off that was donated to her.

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See the pattern here? The donated time is out of the goodness of people's hearts in emergency situations. A two-week vacation isn't an emergency."—In the end, some truly nice coworkers and the original poster ended up each gifting the mom one vacation day each so she could get two full weeks off with her kids.

Tap to play or pause GIFTap to play or pause GIFHBOBut, we want to hear our BuzzFeed readers' opinions. What are your thoughts on this particular situation and how do you feel about gift-giving PTO? Would you give a co-worker your hard-earned days — and should this woman have gifted her days? Let us know in the comments!!!

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