How to decline a Thanksgiving invitation due to the pandemic
Across the country, many people are responding to the pandemic by making decisions that reduce risk of exposure to Covid-19. None of these choices is easy, and managing feelings about skipping annual family Thanksgiving traditions can be hard.
Every year, the Phoenix blogger, her husband and their three boys fly to Nebraska to spend the week seeing loved ones. They go to a University of Nebraska Cornhuskers football game. They eat pumpkin spice treats. They spend the actual holiday with relatives. Then they come back to Arizona and have another celebration at home.Will college students bring Covid-19 home for Thanksgiving?All told, Wellensiek estimated her fivesome probably has close contact with between 20 and 30 other people over the course of the week — not counting interactions with strangers on planes, in stadiums and around town.This year, however, the family will see almost nobody. Because they're not even planning to leave the house.The reason for this change in plans: the Covid-19 pandemic. Like many people, Wellensiek said she doesn't want to risk getting the virus or giving it to people she loves. She also doesn't want to contribute to another spike of cases in her community.Read MoreCDC Thanksgiving guidelines: How to stay safe and coronavirus-free over the holiday"We choose to stay home to protect ourselves, our family and friends, and the community at large," she said via email."Without the Covid pandemic, our plans would not have changed." Wellensiek's concerns are shared by many others. Across the country, many people are responding to the pandemic by making similar decisions about this US holiday. None of these choices is easy, and managing feelings about skipping annual family Thanksgiving traditions can be hard. Communicating your decision clearly and thoughtfully can be the toughest task of all.Note the rulesBefore you can accept or decline a Thanksgiving invite, it's important to figure out how to stay safe. On November 11, the US Centers for Disease Control & Prevention updated guidelines for holiday celebrations. The takeaway: In-person gatherings pose varying levels of risk.Long, indoor gatherings with lots of people pose more of a risk than short, outdoor shindigs with a select few, the CDC noted.CDC now says masks protect both the wearers and those around them from Covid-19Another factor: the number and rate of Covid-19 cases in the community of celebration.In most states, up-to-date statistics on case numbers and community spread can be found on the area's health department website.In areas where these numbers are rising, gatherings bring with them much greater potential risk, said Dr. Ramon Tallaj, founder and chairman of Somos Community Care, a network of health care providers serving New York City."You have to be smart," said Tallaj, who helped implement citywide treatment protocols when New York was a Covid hotspot this spring."If cases are on the rise in your area, don't do it. If you're going to celebrate in a small apartment with lots of people, don't do it. We have pushed so many other things off and this should be no different. Really, what's another year?"Focus on your safetyIf you opt to bail on tradition this year, etiquette experts said it's a good idea to express your choice as a personal one.Using"I statements," or statements that start with the first-person pronoun, make clear to loved ones that your decision has nothing to do with them, said Kianga Kelley-Crowley, founder and owner of Simply a Lady, an etiquette and communications consulting company in Wichita, Kansas.Yes, we have a new US President, but you still have to wear your mask and social distance"It's all right to say, 'I prefer not to get together with everyone,' or 'I'm sorry but we're not going to be able to attend this year,'" she said."Take responsibility for your decision. Own it. Speak the truth to your family members. It's perfectly acceptable to say you're focusing on your own safety and would rather stay home."Lisa Mirza Grotts, who calls herself the "Golden Rules Gal," added that her buzzword of the season is risk.The etiquette expert said she has focused on explaining her decisions only in terms of potential danger — nothing else. This approach has made it easier for her to communicate unpleasant news, she noted. "When you share your feelings in the context of risk — 'I don't want to be a virus spreader and put others at risk' — the sentiment is very straightforward," said Grotts, who is based in San Francisco."This is one of the easiest outs there ever will be. It's not about you. It's about others and what you can do to them."Managing the feelingsAll that said, families are complicated, and altering an age-old tradition could put you at risk of hurting someone's feelings inadvertently.It's incredibly uncomfortable to say,"No, thank you" to people with whom you generally have a history of agreeing, said Sharman Regensburg, a psychotherapist in East Northport, New York.3 ways to improve communication while wearing a mask, from a top speech coachCharged interactions with family members, she noted, could lead to other conflicts or create serious internal pressure — both situations that also can be difficult to navigate.Still, she said, particularly when it comes to your own health, you must speak your mind."In scenarios like this one there rarely is one right answer," Regensburg said."You have to do what you think is best, follow your heart, be respectful in doing so. But also accept that by declining the invitation, you could be alienating that family member for years."While it's perfectly normal that declining Thanksgiving plans would leave you feeling sad, Regensburg said that the emotion of guilt in this case likely represents something else."You can acknowledge you're sad and disappointed, but if you feel guilt, you're probably feeling angry that your loved one isn't honoring your wishes," she said."Usually guilt is what you feel when you've done something you probably shouldn't have done. In this case, there's nothing wrong about declining the invite, so there shouldn't be guilt."Giving thanks differentlyThere are plenty of alternatives to getting together with family members for a traditional Thanksgiving celebration this year. If you're interested in pursuing other options, you can find something that works for everyone.Perhaps the easiest of the bunch is to follow in the footsteps of most workplaces and embrace a virtual holiday.Cough droplets can travel beyond six feet, new simulation study suggestsHere, one family member can assume the role of party planner and set up the meeting, send out invites and serve as"host" for the live event. On a basic level, participants can have the virtual shindig running during their respective dinners, so everyone feels like they're sitting at the table together.For a more sophisticated approach, Kianga Kelley-Crowley suggested distributing prepackaged meals in advance, so everyone is eating the same thing at the same time, together over Zoom. As a way to say"We are thinking of you" to her usual holiday co-celebrants, Grotts said she was buying them a complete Thanksgiving dinner from a supermarket in their area.As Tallaj suggested, an in-person gathering can work, too — so long as the event is held outside and all parties wear face coverings, engage in physical distancing of at least 6 feet, and practice good hand hygiene.To pave the way for this type of gathering, clinical psychologist Angela Waldrop said it may be necessary to ask family members some pointed questions about how well they've been keeping safe. Waldrop likened this questionnaire to the same kind of interview someone might give a new sexual partner. Some of these questions include: How frequently have you come into close contact with people outside of your household? To what extent are you wearing facial coverings and maintaining safe distance from others when you are out and about? 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Just say no Wow FINALLY some good reporting. It’s okay to dispense with the pleasantries and simply reply, “ fuck no”. CNN doesn’t talk about what people who live alone should do. I can’t have Thanksgiving or Christmas with my family so I will be sitting alone for the holidays just like I am every other night. I’m trying to do the right thing but this is so hard.
SundayGloriousWord No is a complete sentence. Honestly, just say you’re concerned about COVID, as you freaking should be, and if they kick off, that’s on them. Umm, how about 'what the hell is wrong with you ; there's a pandemic raging'. “Thanks for the invite to Thanksgiving but I think I am going to stay home and stay safe this year.” That was hard. 🙄
What is the peer pressure that people are living in no means no They say it hurts. Corona? When signatures are not confirmed on mail in ballots. Then, They must be fraud by fair analysis of the situation. In fact, for all we Americans know, these unconfirmed signature mail in ballots could have arrived in bulk from China. China 🇨🇳 collusion with democrats is at play
If you want to see your family next holiday you are going to have to sacrifice seeing then this holiday. That's how I look at it Like 80’s drug prevention ads.... “Just say no” 🤷🏼♀️ I reckon we dust off Jordan for another run at “Stop it, get some help” thanksgiving is happening here. Seriously? That’s easy , just let them know the last 3 thanksgiving you’ve thrown up at the table ! Works every time ! Barf ! Lol
No thanks! It ain't that hard. Bruh this is the most autistic post I’ve seen yet if you’re really that scared of a fake virus just say no I’m not going don’t be a pussy gah damn Bitcoin investment has really turned my life around, with the help of sir Abrantes Rene it success all the way, i invested £1000 and got a cash out worth £8,500. Reach out to him if you want to be successful in your trade. 👇 👇 👇 abrantesrene
Short answer; don’t. Propaganda. Celebrate Thanksgiving! Lock down the country to save lives. Ramping coercing the country into doing nothing but waiting on a vaccine that will treat covid-19 fears. Covid-19 vaccine is gotta cure all morbid diseases. Thereafter world will have immortality. Here’s how to decline an invitation “sorry I don’t want to come over because your ass was around people who had the rona and I don’t want to get that “
Fake CNN saying Trump called Biden winner 😂 always fake news. Just say no. JoeBiden I thought you asked for peace....when will you denounce Antifa and Blm. So this behavior is OK with the LEFT? Biden supporters attack children, women, elderly, LGBQ, and blacks? Sorry! M not honoring any invitation not till the pandemic is over.. life is suck right now 🚶🏼♂️🚶🏼♂️🙄
I swear you treat your readers and viewers like they are children. Communist News Network Sorry all 5 of us are having dinner together. Just say 'No thanks, I dont want Covid' The likely hood of dying is 100%. Tomorrow isn’t promised, I’ll take my chances. A quick tutorial for pansies Just say, Cuomo is a thug c...sucker.
I said, “This year we’re sheltering in place. Thanks Covid & DJT.” Do not decline! Pandemic is over! Fuck no.. its that easy No thank you! Easy Very easy. Just say no. JustSayNo Thanks in advance! JustSayNo SpeakerPelosi Just text a middle finger emoji in response to all invitations. That’s good advice even when there’s no pandemic.
Thank goodness we have cnn to tell us how to decline an invitation. Such outstanding journalism. How about, 'No, thank you. Only true idiots would choose to gather with others just to have one stupid dinner when it could ultimately be deadly.' Simply say 'I'm a little stupid because I let CNN tell me how to interact with my family. You're better off without me showing up anyway.'
Say...'No thanks' Just say “I’m too scared and I don’t wanna see you” Hopefully, the stupidity in the White House won’t spread to other Americans. Look at all the losers libs. Anti American Kamala Toe lovers. Say No thanks... Just say no! Just say 'No'. Your whole network is a joke. You keep posting this crap trying to control peoples choices. Everyone enjoy Thanksgiving don’t let CNN control what you do.
How to get cnn to shutup. Im an AMERICAN, FRKN TIRED OF trying to run my life into the ground over an illness you could care less about. Do u care about aborted babies? NO CARE ABOUT Half a MILLION Americans who die YEAR FROM CANCER NO! 300,000 A YR FRM THE FLU? NONONO Fukn stupid Why would you? The virus had a 99.5% survival rate? Fake news
I will just send them this article. People don’t need to give a reason, even before Covid. A simple “I can’t make it” suffices. Don't decline that's how. If you can gather in the streets to celebrate an election you had no control over in the first place you can get together with family. understand, The League is trying to assert control over your personal life. Do not allow the darkness to ruin your life
Don’t, live your life.. If lazy Joe B tells us to go to the basement and hide because of Covid. I am not doing it. I will carryon as usual, hidden from view if necessary. I’m going to accept a thanksgiving invitation from my family of 20. We are going to call it a protest against serving anything but turkey. We are going to watch football, sing, drink and be thankful.
Very easy. “Thank you, but we’re in the middle of a pandemic. See you next year.” Here’s how: Don’t No There are 2 Americas. One worships God and supports freedom. One despises God and supports personal and economic lockdowns. No FU Done. We will FaceTime or zoom. . ／￣￣￣ ＼_ / ＿ ＿＿/ ( / `′ ヽ |/ ／ ＼ | / /• ) /•\\ Ｖ) ｜ (＿ 丿 ｜ﾉ＿＿＾ ＿＿ ＿ | ｜＼Ⅰ Ⅰ🇨🇳Ⅰ Ⅰ／ | 人 ヽⅠ ＿Ⅰ ／ ノ ` ＼＿＿＿_／ Anything wrong?
Keep trying to push your cancel culture agenda. We are not giving up our freedom, past, present or future. YouDontOwnMe Lmao. Like they told us in the 90s. Just say NO 😂😂 What kind of stupid article is this. Is it too hard to say “I’m not coming”..... oh cnn you guys are the brightest bunch.... “No thanks”
Word on the street: Trump may start a media network. If he does I hope he does the opposite to CNN. Instead of all liberal bias he has all conservative bias. It would be nice to have one network that was biased to the right. Capitalism instead of socialism, support police, etc. Try saying, “Are you out of your fucking mind?”
This should read 'How to give up on life and reject family in the name of authoritarianism' Anti American CNN. Silly article. You decline an invitation politely by saying you regret that you will not be able to attend. That said, I am alive, and family matters. I will spend Thanksgiving with family. I will not crawl into a hole and whimper for a year or two until I'm told it's safe.
Ha cnn AT&T decision to sell cnn makes sense low ratings and over paid talking heads Suck a dīck No meeting❗ People will actually send out invitations? 🤷♀️ 🙄🙄🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 We really need media to tell us how to say No for everyone’s safety? For real? Want eveyone alive and well for Xmas? It doesnt take much.
'You wanna come over for Th- ' Easy. Download the Parler app and see real news The left wants to control your life, they don't care about your safety. Covid-19 will not be defeated by lockdowns and hiding in your house. I do believe CNN is on the wrong side of this issue. Frown face :( U dont No My history of thanksgivings during an epidemic is a little rusty but correct me if I’m wrong the first one was a little rough on the locals, just saying.
In my town its easy!!!! There are a bunch of dumb as trump supporters running around with no mask!!!! I avoid these morons at all cost! Say no Orrrrrrr... Fuck that! I am going to have my normal 18 ppl here for TG at my house and everyone is coming!!! Fuck you Gov you don't tell me what to do!!! My mother used to say, “It’s just a day.” Her point was to teach us not to romanticize any day of the year. Some of the most wonderful times with loved ones, have been spontaneous, average days that suddenly became memorable. staythefuckhome
Softer than baby shit Just say no (NR). So they admitting that it’s really not serious so you have to hand wring when declining invitations. DON'T... ,me & my family will be bringing our immune systems & stuffing our faces together, indoors, like we always do... Jajajajaja Jajajajaja Jajajajaja you fools are going to miss out.
Imagine now it seems that Americans have no brains that we have to be told what to do for Thanksgiving & of course like little sheep they will oblige Decline ? Your lockdown plans are totalitarian and unconstitutional we are free to do whatever we want ! I’m buying an extra turkey this year to invite more people
Uh how bout “No Thanks”? Don't!!! Go to Thanksgiving! fakenews Ours was Oct 12 Monday. Cases rose as expected 2 weeks.Families truly let down their restricted public health Ontario, the cases rise, we are advised, and still they are those who believe they can live without risk.Stay within your bubble. Zoom it.
Say love you but no thanks, I'm self quarantining. Done. No . Is a full sentence QUAWAN CHARLES WAS LYNCHED. PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD. No real family looks like this. Womp womp Just say no? I took care of that already. I called all of my family members the racist trash that they are lol OMG. Propaganda machine at work
GET LOST Just say no YOU DONT HAVE A PARTY AND YOU DONT GO!!!! Just start coughing and wheezing...they’ll get the message NO is a complete sentence. I ain’t coming over cuz your cookin sucks. That’ll work. 'No' “Thanks for the invite- but since I was planning on hosting my own and inviting everyone for a big party. You should come too!”
I rather miss one holiday with the family than miss them all. Tell media to fuck off thats how they didn’t have a problem 2 days ago while celebrating in the streets in the thousands Singing of all things super spreader event of Democrats was perfectly fine but Thanks giving you will die what a JOKE !
‘I’m not coming to Thanksgiving this year due to COVID. We can FaceTime. Kbye’ done. Heard your turkey was covid infected? You people can take this pussy shit somewhere else 骗子 You really had to write an article on this topic? hell no, you trying to kill me? Direct and to the point. They won't ask you next year either.
Dine enjoy the day and enjoy the company period do not let others determine whether you are enjoying your life MattWalshBlog I don’t understand how Covid magically disappears when liberals decide to riot and loot or when they all gather for an illegitimate Biden presidential victory in the streets. But it will be around for Thanksgiving?
Saying, I'm riculously stupid, so I watch CNN. I’m still having my super spreader event because the election is over and I’m not a Democrat. I’m an American. 👎👎 I'm giving thanks on Thanksgiving that I don't live in a Democrat state especially if Biden really becomes president in January next year. Biden policies will cause the country to go into a depression like Europe is in now.
How about no FUH Q Just say no. It isn't that hard really. And here you go, CNN speaking down to its little minions! Pathetic. Tuh...imma say I'm cooking my own food but I'll catch ya on zoom. Looking forward to all the leftovers ❤❤. We are having a peaceful protest so we will be fine. Those are the rules you said.
Just be honest, call them and tell them to fuck off. That family doesn't mean shit to a socialist prole. This is demonic. The Democratic Party has become the party of anti-family values. No natalism, no family holidays, no inheritances. Idiots, we will be having a family Thanksgiving and you can suck it!
You didn't hear anyone causing a fuss when there was zero social distancing going on when people were parading around. We've done social distancing, we've done masks and guess what...numbers are still 'going up'. Locking down the country isn't gonna solve it. I'll keep my holiday First, learn the 14th letter and then the 15th. Combine the letters, wrap it, and give it.
Easy. Don’t decline it Social engineering. 'Name' of covid? Yikes. Just say it’s a BLM thanksgiving and the virus magically disappears. I like to watch Grocery Hauls on youtube to see what products people are buying and what foods they are stocking up on for the second wave. No.... I am appalled at the lack of mental toughness we Americans possess. How about sacrificing this year’s holidays so you’re alive the next 50 holidays? How could you enjoy a gathering with the prospect of infecting a loved one?