Thanks to Universal Credit, I can't live with my girlfriend without losing money

Universal Credit is means-tested against not only your own income and savings, but also those of your partner if you live with them.

10/27/2021 10:30:00 PM

Universal Credit is means-tested against not only your own income and savings, but also those of your partner if you live with them.

Universal Credit is means-tested against not only your own income and savings, but also those of your partner if you live with them.

SharesPeople always talk about the money you can save by living with someone else but I would actually be worse off if we moved in together. Much worse off (Picture: Shona Louise Cobb)When my girlfriend and I first started talking about moving in together, I didn’t fully realise the financial impact it would have on me.

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Excited conversations about how nice it would be to have our own little space, and to not have to travel so far to see each other, quickly turned into frantic googling after I discovered through others sharing their experiences that cohabiting meant I could lose some of my benefits.

People always talk about the money you can save by living with someone else but I could actually be worse off if we moved in together. Much worse off.Why? I’m reliant onUniversal Creditfor a big portion of my income, because I am disabled. And if I was to move in with my partner, I could lose at least half of the benefits that I’m currently entitled to. headtopics.com

I live with a genetic condition called Marfan Syndrome, which means I use an electric wheelchair to get around and, just a few months ago, I had major open-heart surgery due to my condition. The way mydisabilityaffects me changes on a daily basis; I deal with chronic pain and fatigue every day but some days are worse than others. A severe migraine or a flare up of my spinal pain can wipe out a whole day for me.

As a result, working full-time hours just isn’t possible so I am reliant on Universal Credit.In the UK, the benefit is means-tested against not only your own income and savings, but also those of your partner, if you choose to move in together and be legally recognised as a couple.

This means that my girlfriend – fortunately, or unfortunately – earns too much for me to be entitled to any support if we lived together. If my Universal Credit was cut, I would be almost completely reliant on her for money, and that’s not a situation either of us desires.

If my Universal Credit was cut, I would be almost completely reliant on my girlfriend for money (Picture: Shona Louise Cobb)The amount of money I receive through Universal Credit already varies depending on my self-employed income each month – but, on average, I’d be going from getting £400-£600 a month, to far less. headtopics.com

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I became officially self-employed three years ago, after realising that working for myself is the only type of employment that is flexible enough and accessible for me. I now work as a freelance writer and photographer, and I run a small Etsy shop selling crochet animals and bee keyrings.

However, despite theaccessibility, the income can be very unstable. It is never guaranteed, and it can vary dramatically from month to month. My disability affects how much I can work – one day I might only manage to reply to a few emails, but the next I could feel well enough to take an in-person photography job. This means I never quite know how much I’ll make each month.

In a good month, I could earn nearly as much as my partner, meaning the amount of Universal Credit I receive goes down. The next month I might only be able to take on one or two jobs and suddenly I’m back to being fully reliant on my benefits.It’s the unpredictable nature of my work and my disability combined that makes it such a risk to lose the security that Universal Credit provides.

It doesn’t seem in any way fair that I am forced to choose between being dependent on a partner and living with them, or being self-sufficient but living separately.I met my girlfriend almost three years ago, through our shared love of theatre – she spotted me at the stage door of one of our favourite shows, Bat Out Of Hell the Musical. And, thanks to social media, we connected a few weeks later. I have a very visible disability so from the start she was aware of some of the barriers that might be in our way, but we were determined to face them together. headtopics.com

As things progressed, moving in together was a conversation that naturally came up. It felt like a really obvious step for us, particularly as we live over an hour away from each other. We’re currently stuck only being able to see each other once a week – all of which makes it even more frustrating that we can’t move in together without me losing a huge chunk of my income.

I feel a lot of guilt as a disabled person – I often feel like an inconvenience, and someone that makes life more difficult. I think about how straightforward moving out would be if I was able to work full time hours, and if my disability didn’t limit my options. My partner is incredible at reassuring me, but she is definitely angry at the benefits system for putting us in this position.

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My partner is incredible at reassuring me, but she is definitely angry at the benefits system (Picture: Shona Louise Cobb)Moving in with the person you love is meant to be a happy and exciting step to take together but, for couples like us, anxiety is the overriding emotion. I feel like I’m stalling our relationship and it’s hard not to blame yourself in this situation, even though there is no one to blame but the government.

It truly feels like the odds are stacked against me. It feels like I don’t have, and won’t ever have, the same chance at independence that my peers have.It’s likely that I won’t ever be able to work a traditional nine-to-five job. Having my own financial security and independence, while also living with my girlfriend, often feels like a pipe dream.

There are wider repercussions as well. Given that disabled people are almost three times as likely to experience domestic abuse, it’s shocking that our own benefits system can work to take away our independence, rather than give us it. Countless disabled people who cannot work long term are forced to rely on their partners financially, meaning that they may feel stuck in less-than-ideal circumstances.

Even for those couples where both members are reliant on Universal Credit, it’s only paid into one bank account, if living together. I feel very grateful to be in a safe and loving relationship because I can see just how easy it would be to find yourself trapped within an abusive one, in a situation like this.

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