Why Do So Many Celebrities Cheat on Their Partners?

How people handle temptations makes all the difference.

12/8/2021 8:02:00 PM

Does it seem like celebrities cheat on their partners more often than the rest of us? This could be why some do—and why others don't, writes LewandowskiPhD

How people handle temptations makes all the difference.

Celebrities are generally highly desirable and therefore have many options for potential partners.Thinking there are other high quality partners you could be with undermines commitment and increases the chances of infidelity.Those in higher quality relationships with more commitment and satisfaction find flaws in potential new partners to make them less tempting.

Whether a person cheats may come down to how they handle temptations.Source: stevepb/PixabayQuick, in 10 seconds think of all the celebrities who have allegedly cheated in their relationship... Go! Jay-Z, Kristen Stewart, Ashton Kutcher, Tiger Woods, Jude Law, Bill Clinton, Dave Letterman, Kobe Bryant, LeAnn Rimes, Usher, Hugh Grant, Jessica Simpson, Ethan Hawke, Bill Clinton some more, Brett Favre, that guy Sandra Bullock was married to, and Kevin Hart. That's quite a list. Plus, there’s likely many more we forgot about, or that never found themselves caught by

TMZorExtra. Why is generating a list of celebrity cheaters so easy? Either you have an extraordinary knowledge of celebrities' love lives, or celebrityreally is a common phenomenon.So, why do they do it? Simple: Because they have a lot of options. headtopics.com

Everyone may not be created equally when it comes to their opportunities to be unfaithful. In the case of celebrities, they have a high mate value due to their physical, money, power, fame/notoriety, or some combination thereof. As a result, potential interlopers find them highly desirable and are willing accomplices in the affair (because even D-list celebrities are still celebrities).

Quality of AlternativesAccording to one prominent perspective in relationship science known as"interdependence theory", celebrities have a high quality of alternatives — which means that if they weren’t with their current partner, their next potential partner would still be pretty great.

1Basically, even if their Tesla crashes, they would easily replace it with a new Bentley. In relationships, when a person believes that the relationship they’d end up with if they weren’t with their current partner is pretty good, or even better than their current partner, sticking around is a lot less appealing. In other (more technical) words, having a high quality of alternatives undermines commitment.

Celebrities have a lot of other fish in their proverbial seas. Unfortunately, even if their relationship is fantastic, the abundant temptation undermines commitment and fidelity. So it may not be that us"normal folks" are more moral and virtuous, and thus more faithful. Instead, it may just be that we don’t have the same temptations and opportunities, or ability to capitalize on them. headtopics.com

Still, some celebrities cheat and some don’t. Ultimately, being unfaithful reflects a lack of commitment. For example, when researchers at Southern Methodist University measured participants' commitment, those with lower levels of commitment at the beginning of the semester were more likely to cheat later in the semester (i.e., over the course of a three-month period).

2In a follow-up study, a different set of students completed daily diaries of their interactions over spring break (wouldn’t you love to read those?). Even over that short week, those with lower commitment prior to the break reported more physical and emotional

with potential alternate partners. Said less delicately, they cheated.How to Deal with AlternativesThat said, just because someone has a lot of available options, it doesn’t mean they’re automatically going to cheat. In fact, the truly committed may not notice the alternatives, and if they do, may find faults with them and see them as less desirable.

3Researchers call this derogating alternatives, which is a fancy way of saying you find problems with potential new partners so that you’re not tempted to cheat on your current partner. Essentially, when you’re highly committed to your current relationship, you avoid the potential threat of a wandering eye by finding something wrong with them (e.g., “sure, that other possible partner is gorgeous and fun, but they have an odd headtopics.com

sense of humor”). Sometimes, the reasons you come up with to rule them out aren’t even particularly valid, but they do the job of removing the person as an option.You can also derogate alternatives based on your perception of how physically attractive you think other potential partners are. When researchers showed pictures of attractive alternatives to single people and those in a relationship, participants in a relationship thought the alternatives were less physically attractive.

4All of a sudden, that 10 out of 10 who is hitting on you, is really just a"6" who doesn't compare to your superb partners. These perceptions were even stronger among those who were highly satisfied with their current relationship. In other words, being happy with your current partner made others seem less hot.

The Take-Home MessageUltimately, cheating is a choice. Having more options and temptations available will test how committed a person is to their relationship. But simply having more alternatives doesn’t guarantee that a person will be unfaithful. Instead, high-quality alternatives are only a threat to relationships that already have problems, low satisfaction, or low commitment. Those in strong relationships can more easily avoid the allure of alternatives.

References1 Kelley, H. H., & Thibaut, J. (1978).Interpersonal relations: A theory of interdependence.New York: Wiley.2 Drigotas, S. M., Safstrom, C., & Gentilia, T. (1999). An investment model prediction of dating infidelity.Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 77,

509-524.3 Johnson, D. J., & Rusbult, C. E. (1989). Resisting temptation: Devaluation of alternative partners as a means of maintaining commitment in close relationships.Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 57(6), 967–980.4 Cole, S., Trope, Y., & Balcetis, E. (2016). In the eye of the betrothed: Perceptual downgrading of attractive alternative romantic partners.

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LewandowskiPhD May be that is option? LewandowskiPhD When You kiss somebody during filming movie, You do open gates for cheating. Based on Stanislavsky method, You need to feel something similar to what is required during filming so folks will see it realistic. So, by nature of the business movie stars are more prone to cheating.

LewandowskiPhD Most likely that there are just more interest in cases of celebrities cheats. The more people look for it, the more they’ll find it, and for each one that they find, there are thousands of copies of the articles written and being sold on the scandal. LewandowskiPhD Pretty sure there's a massive disparity in how much we hear about celebrity lives. I doubt there's any real difference in how folks behave, one group simply has the bright lights constantly looking for anything to report on while the rest of us enjoy obscurity.

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