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Today, we've got this woman, who wants to know whether it's okay to ask her boyfriend to stop masturbating. Here's what she sent meAlright, here's the deal: There are a limited number of things that you are allowed to control when it comes to your partner's sex life. For example, anything the two of you doin bed must obviously happen with your consent. Likewise, if you're monogamous, you are agreeing that neither person is allowed to sleep with someone else.
I don't mean to diminish your personal discomfort about any of this, by the way. I recognize that when something makes us feel anxious or uneasy,"getting over it" is so much easier said than done. But, as you yourself suggested at the end of your DM, I think this is one thing you should try, with time and a new perspective, to overcome. It's the fairest thing for your partner, and in the big picture, I think it will be a healthier and more sustainable path for you.
Allowed? It’s not a matter of being reasonable, it’s a matter of control
Your response to this lady about masturbation was excellent. Masturbation is a private activity, as you outlined very well, and is a very personal one. It allows people to feel comfortable with their own sexuality and should not be interfered with when it happens in a healthy way
Regulary i wud say
“I’ve never had this happen in any of my past relationships” oh bless your controlling little heart, baby doll
Ur being psycho
How did you 'come across' him six times accidentally? Come on now.
It is only fair if she have sex with him every time he wants to masturbate
She's in denial about her ex boyfriends not yanking themselves! This is excellent advice. Only time this behaviour is problematic is if the video contains some perverted or illegal stuff in it.
I'm pretty sure Playgirl or Penthouse Letters answered this at least once and honey, what you want in this case doesn't matter. jeez. It's not your body to make rules with.
Masturbation is what keeps things together.
Dear boyfriend. Run.
This is controlling behaviour. The fact that she even thought she could tell him what he couldn’t and couldn’t do with his own body speaks volumes about her own combined insecurity and narcissism.... poor bloke. I’m amazed he didn’t leave when she first brought this up....
That is ridiculously controlling. She has issues that she needs to work on.
its hard to stop so yes
呵，女人
100% this is due to a lingering religious upbringing that taught masturbation is shameful. It of course is not.
Unfair is putting it too lightly. The question should be, why did she ask him to stop. Based on her text, it appears that she is worried about being abandoned by, or replaced by his “secretive” practice. So the “problem” seems to stem from her issues with trust and insecurity.
Better jerking off then cheating but let’s be honest he is probably cheating too
thats toxic
jerking off is off limits when it comes to stuff you can forbid your partner to do so. actually, you can't force your partner to stop doing something he/she likes, you gotta adapt or leave
Without context of why, this is something that both men and women should use a stress release without shame.
maybe she isnt giving him none
I guess I’m the only one voting.
100% Unfair.
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