He remembers staring at the computer screen, feeling constantly agitated and struggling to concentrate.
But many fathers are showing signs of strain in the workplace as obligations outside their jobs grow.Amy Beacom, founder of the Centre for Parental Leave Leadership, works with companies like Microsoft and energy firm Phillips 66 to provide coaching and training tied to parental leave. Her US-based organisation wants companies to conduct mental health screening during the perinatal period, which runs from pregnancy to one year after birth, for mothers and fathers.Those kinds of screenings may be some way off but companies are taking other steps to support dads at work.
She works with firms including Deloitte and HSBC, and says employers want to make the issue not just about women and babies, but about families and parents. Mr Laguna says men often struggle to step away from their jobs, hung up on worries over how it will look to"other men we work with".Image captionThe 44-year-old, who also runs a lighting company, says his generation hasn't had many role models on how to balance family and work in the way that is now expected.Experts welcome efforts by companies to support working dads while calling for more to be done to build awareness.
Mark Williams from Bridgend in Wales suffered from depression after the traumatic birth of his son, and found returning to work as a sales and marketing trainer so difficult that he had to resign. He founded the charity Fathers Reaching Out and campaigns to raise awareness in the UK.
Source: News Formal (newsformal.com)
Nanny state continues
Childcare time has more than tripled for men since 1965. Housework has more than doubled since 1965. Men's total work has increased by 140% the increase of women's total work since 1965.
Ok. So ask new Dad’s how they are. Then ask old Dad’s how they are too!!! Hey! Spend the day asking everyone how they are! 😂
Is it me or the current generation of men a bit more delicate...
They do where I work. Maybe the problem is his colleagues, not the system.
Seriously you guys need to start reporting news again please
Probably depends on the job. My colleagues have listened to my moaning for 2.5 years and been nothing but supoortive
Yes we do! What about asking the menopausal woman!!! 🤔🤦♀️
Perhaps that is because they haven't recently given birth? 🙄
Yes they do, everyone does!! I also enjoyed every minute of being a new dad, it's not easy but I signed up to sleepless nights (still get those) I miss my son everyday when I'm at work but you just got to crack on. My dad did the same and I don't think any worse if him!!!!
Yes they do. Stop lying, we are all so tired of this.
I do 😀
I have seen many emotional hardships in the workplace. Death, cancer, divorce, kids killed, job losses etc. Having new additions to the family is a great thing in life for most people and a happy time.
for fuck sake stop this bloody nonsense we will be unable to crap without holding hand with a shrink if we continue listening to such bollocks.
Tired
Maybe bc they didn’t give birth? 🙄
Immensely pleased and incredibly knackered. Next.
It's not, we had 8/9 months to get used to it (depending when u found out). My wife did/does an excellent job with the kids, I struggled and still do to spend long time around them but the older they get the easier it is. However i didnt wanna be asked how I am doing man up.
For gods sake give it a rest ... try giving birth and ask how u r feeling!!
Not sure anyone gives a shit.
Eh they have not just had a. Baby exit the equivalent of their groin area.guess that’s why u think?a🧸⏰
So what?
I’ll be honest, I didn’t carry either of my 2 boys for 9 months or go through changes to my body. It wasn’t me who was unable to drive for 6 weeks because of C-Sections both times. Other than a bit of a lack of sleep i was pretty much ok.
It’s commonly recognised as being the easier part of deal, in fact “going to work for a break” is often used in our office. Yes it’s a shock to the system, being a new dad, but nothing compared to what new mums have to experience, they’re the real heroes
The one way street that is equality.
EdgeGazza 🙄🤔🤔🤨 For one, I do ask new dads exactly that question
So congratulations on becoming a dad doesn’t cut it anymore for the snowflakes?
So true.
Get a grip
STOP wasting our money
Well you havent just given birth you just watched and lost a bit of sleep man up
R bless
Well men don’t pick up the slack, nor are they expected to! so why bother asking.
'Illness' ? 'Childbirth is not an illness'...so we have been told for eons. Get over it Dad's. Wimps don't make good fathers.
Yes they do. You need better co workers
Grow up.
No big deal and nothing new; blokes get through it. Only women get treated well. This is called: Modern Equality🤷♂️
We don't need to. New moms and dads all have the same sleep-deprived zombie look. A sympathetic pat on the back and a fresh cup of coffee is good. Maybe an exchange of baby tips and tricks in moments of lucidity 'This worked for us/me when they did X' kind of thing.
I am asking new dads now..how are you feeling at work..
Sensationalist headline. Oddly enough, plenty of us 'men' that roll our sleeves up and get on with it still exist. My wife had 2 cesareans; me having to go back to work was a walk in the park. Men have it far far easier as new parents.
Yes we do. In my office (600 people +) we all ask new dads how they are, if they are managing any sleep etc. Just because 1 man didn't get asked does not make this a story. Come on BBC.
Cos at work we are just numbers 🤷♂️
Yes i feel strongly about this! My place of work have been very supportive but I still think it’s overlooked and not taken seriously enough
Yes they do! They always ask if the baby kept them up, etc. If you were a dick to everyone before the baby, maybe that’s your answer!
More lies from the worst corporation in the British Isles.
Inaccurate and lazy headlining. Quote by all means.
As a father of two, this article is pure bullshit
Depends how nice your colleagues are! I work with a friendly lot.
They asked me!
U got to hv patience n tell urself u can do it.... when u hv a baby he she wl scream cry n god knows what else the baby wl throw at u ... so my advise is do not hv kids if u r gonna stress out go nuts .. no more excuses get a grip n put ur damn life together.
Simply not true............
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Im sure they will cope with not being asked how they are feeling. Most people dont want to share their private life, thoughts and feelings with work colleges.
Put your big boy pants on and grow up. This is adulting.
Really? They do in my workplace. Don’t make a big fuss about it though.
Happens all the time
Because no one cares
fossildotty Your wife has just pushed out the a child, she is now at home having to deal with a new born child feeling totally exhausted. I wont ask how you’re feeling at work. As a father of 4 I know how you feel, you feel lucky, lucky to escape the mayhem. 🤷♂️🤷♂️
Bullshit. People ask me all the time
I wonder what would happen if these 'men' were around in World War 2, or in times when they were forced to work in mines
Get a grip you cnt
No one gives a fuck when men or women just had kids. Everyone does it. Not a special talent. Keep it to yourself.
Because that would be sexist because they didn’t carry the baby and didn’t give birth and only put up with the stress of feeling useless and being used as an emotional punchbag usedtoit
I do. If no one asks a new dad how they’re doing, they’ve got the wrong workmates
What is the world turning into ffs 🧚♀️🧚♀️
Becoming a parent is a choice, if you are blessed with a healthy baby be thankful and enjoy it. Some people would be only too happy to suffer sleepiness nights.
You need to change where you work!
Please man up!
That’s not true.
Is this going to be the new 'thing' for this month 🤦🏾♂️
No one asked you to bring another human into an overpopulated planet. You made your bed, you sleep on it. Go cry somewhere else.
Glad for some peace
Bloody hell get on with it
FFS grow a pair
Look, I don’t think anyone ever asked my miner dad 60 years ago if he was ok at work as a new dad. What a silly non headline.
Parenthood is a massive adjustment to dad’s as well as mum’s.
Because they’ve not had ET sucking the life out of them for 9 months only then to evict him (with the head the size of a basket ball) through an orifice meant to accommodate something an inch in diameter. 🤦🏻♀️
Woman,do not understand what a man, husband goes through trying to do his best for his wife and family. I am still suffering 20 years on and very alone, I love my family.
They haven't carried a baby for nine months and they haven't given birth. Going to work is a lucky escape for most men. I have a number of friends whose husbands became very down as they were no longer number one. (Sad/pathetic really.)
Yes they do
It's work.
That's because we just 'get on with it'!
Wish I’d had five weeks off, I had three days off and then back in to work . Loads of people asking if I was ok and they even had a pressie for my Mrs.
I worried constantly that my wife was struggling to cope.
Ffs....ok hey dave how's your vagina today? You'd think they pushed a bowling ball out not the mother! snowflakes
Because no one cares about dads. Ask any separated dad! Also look at sma adverts. It's all about 'mum's your doing a great job'
Get a fucking grip. What happened to men being men
BBC used stats to compare UK father paid leave and Japan has 2nd highest but the participation rate among men in Japan is 6%. Also most Japanese men take less than 2 weeks off, in line with the UK father paid leave. 🙄
If you have replied ' Man up ' to this tweet, you have contributed to yet another man taking his own life today. Stop and think about what you are saying, you are killing men. Depression exists, can affect anyone and can be devastating. MentalHealthMatters MensHealth
I mean, we know the 9month pregnant was hard but manageable, the birth could've been less painful and breastfeeding is a doddle so....
Most people that I know have always been most profuse with their congratulations, most Dads answer with a smile saying 'tired', perhaps the extreme leftwingers at the BBC don't care about their colleagues
They ask the mum because she has had a major difficult experience, birth is hard work painful and sometimes difficult More than likely she does majority of baby care with or without partners support partner can go out go to work etc any time she must stay!
It’s hard being a ‘new dad’ (whatever that means). Lack of sleep and stress play havoc with you, of course. But it was my wife that gave birth, my wife that went through over 18 hours of agony during prolonged childbirth and she then had to deal with PND. I had it easy.
How ya feeling 🙄🙄🙄🤷♀️
Stop with this shit. Its boring now. Do we have to care how absolutely everyone is feeling now?
Relieved to be out of the bedlam
Lolz.
They know he is happy to be away from feeding and nappy changes...he looks so happy
Yes we do, jesus, everybody has to be a victim
A real man just gets on with it today’s blokes are soft as shit feel sorry for me come ffs grow a pair you’d never make it as a cave man 👌
Ya!....Because having a baby like having another job.. doubling your efforts.. it's hard but sweet..
Mine did. Was amazingly supportive
Man up.
Do they have the baby with ?
I work in a male dominant environment and we always talk about kids and home life. If you don’t get on with your colleagues, why are you gonna discuss your home life and personal issues.
Did they just squeeze the equivalent of a 9lb watermelon out their youha did they? I don't think so bbc does it again reporting on non issues whilst ignoring what is really important in this effed up union
They do. Another article that did not need to be written. Too much media. Lots going on elsewhere in the world that needs reporting.
Interesting reading JShield88 chrishorn1978
Aww diddums! Coochie coo to you!
Is it because everybody knows they are knackered and grumpy because they have been awake all night?
Yet the absence of fathers is main cause of kids stabbing each other! Not noticed when there and blamed for not being there! Support of fathers trying get access goes back to Blair getting smoke bombed!
Men don't matter in society.
Yes they do. Maybe no one likes him.
Brownlie123 SeanMenzies1
I just became a father, informed by my employer I'm only entitled to statutory pay which I couldn't afford to take. My other option was to use my holiday allowance which I did. What if I had no holidays left though, would I have missed the birth of my child?
I always ask if they slept well the night before. The majority look shell shocked wandering around the office like zombies for the first 6 months.
Yes, they do
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Probably tired.
White, hetero men are just considered to sperm donors now. The media has since moved onto feminists, non-binaries and trans people to care about.
Get over yourself.
Because new dads are treated as baby sitters, whereas new mums are treated as sole care givers.
stop whinging and get to work your choice to have kids
That’s because media outlets like this which focus on gender identity far too much cannot get passed the irony that they enforce Male gender stereotypes whilst trying to break female gender stereotypes.
Every charity I've worked for has been really supportive of new dad's. Guess it's all down to the employer.
1-2 Weeks Paternity is an absolute joke in this day and age. Companies should be forced to give more.
Probably because they are not interested.
Yes , they do.
Does this really classify as news?
So ?
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