Coping with PMDD: 'My periods caused me to self-destruct'

6/12/2020 10:56:00 PM

The period condition that can ruin people's lives

The period condition that can ruin people's lives

A silent condition ruining women’s lives, one woman explains how premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) messed with her mental and physical health for years.

driving around 30% of sufferers to attempt suicide .driving around 30% of sufferers to attempt suicide .driving around 30% of sufferers to attempt suicide .Jun 2, 2020 at 4:02am PDT How does your mind feel? Mine is exhausted - I haven’t been able to get more than 3-4 hours sleep per night for the last couple of weeks - since it all happened.

Starting, on average, at around the time of ovulation and usually ending when a period arrives around two weeks later, the symptoms can include extreme anxiety, psychosis, depression and, at worst, wanting to harm yourself and others. Unlike PMS, PMDD can be so debilitating that work, social life and relationships may become impossible to manage for more than a few days a month. Unlike PMS, PMDD can be so debilitating that work, social life and relationships may become impossible to manage for more than a few days a month. The cause is not yet clear, but it’s thought that people with PMDD are more sensitive to the hormonal changes that come with your cycle. The cause is not yet clear, but it’s thought that people with PMDD are more sensitive to the hormonal changes that come with your cycle. At first I thought the idea was silly: surely there was no way that a period could have this much impact? But over the years, I’d been tracking my menstrual cycle on a calendar and writing about my mental health on a blog. At first I thought the idea was silly: surely there was no way that a period could have this much impact? But over the years, I’d been tracking my menstrual cycle on a calendar and writing about my mental health on a blog. When I looked at the two side by side, I was floored: every time my period was due, my mental health plummeted. I don’t think I’ve ever seen non-minority people rally around us to lift up our voices, leaving their houses in their thousands to say enough is enough in a way that I’ve never seen the likes of, ever before.

Everything matched up. Everything matched up. Everything matched up. In 2016, aged 26, I was officially diagnosed with PMDD. It was thought that the hormone progesterone was sending me haywire, so I was put on a three-month trial of oestrogen-only hormone therapy, which suppresses the menstrual cycle. It was thought that the hormone progesterone was sending me haywire, so I was put on a three-month trial of oestrogen-only hormone therapy, which suppresses the menstrual cycle. Different treatments work for different people, but hormone therapy worked for me. Different treatments work for different people, but hormone therapy worked for me. The doctors then put me on a temporary chemical-induced menopause. The doctors then put me on a temporary chemical-induced menopause. But don’t worry - we can do something about that.

It simulated what life would be like if I was to have a hysterectomy and my body stopped naturally producing progesterone. It was the best three months of my life. It was the best three months of my life. It was the best three months of my life. I didn’t have a single down day. In disbelief, I made a bucket list, determined to reclaim my life. In disbelief, I made a bucket list, determined to reclaim my life. They were minor things to most people, like going to Planet Hollywood and the hot-air Balloon Fiesta in Bristol, and visiting the Leaning Tower Of Pisa. They were minor things to most people, like going to Planet Hollywood and the hot-air Balloon Fiesta in Bristol, and visiting the Leaning Tower Of Pisa. So set boundaries.

My best friend and I booked a four-day trip to Italy. My best friend and I booked a four-day trip to Italy. Despite planning to come home if my mental health should plummet, there wasn’t a single difficult moment. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Then and there, I decided that I couldn’t go back to life as it was before. One afternoon, two years after my diagnosis, my doctors broke something to me. One afternoon, two years after my diagnosis, my doctors broke something to me. This is so overwhelming.

The chemical menopause that had brought me so much bliss wasn’t a long-term solution because denying your body progesterone completely for an extended period of time can cause dangerous abnormal cell growth. The chemical menopause that had brought me so much bliss wasn’t a long-term solution because denying your body progesterone completely for an extended period of time can cause dangerous abnormal cell growth. Doctors told me I should consider having a full hysterectomy, removing my uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. Doctors told me I should consider having a full hysterectomy, removing my uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. While less invasive methods work for many other people with PMDD, sadly I was at the end of the treatment plan and this was the only option I had left. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. How would my mum feel? She’d always wanted grandkids. We’re people who were already tired and don’t need to take on the added burden of their education.

But that night, chatting things through with her, I realised that the PMDD would eventually mean she would lose me. But that night, chatting things through with her, I realised that the PMDD would eventually mean she would lose me. It had caused me to self-destruct. It had caused me to self-destruct. I couldn’t keep putting my family and friends through overdoses. I couldn’t keep putting my family and friends through overdoses. How could I have a child when I couldn’t even care for myself? My hysterectomy was booked for 7th May 2019. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. Just being silly.

This was going to be the first day of the rest of my life. But still, a seed of doubt niggled: was I doing the right thing? What if it didn’t work? Mum and Dad came with me, and I had packed my overnight bag with a fluffy uterus draped in a superman cape that my mates had given me for good luck. But still, a seed of doubt niggled: was I doing the right thing? What if it didn’t work? Mum and Dad came with me, and I had packed my overnight bag with a fluffy uterus draped in a superman cape that my mates had given me for good luck. I wore a T-shirt emblazoned with “See you later, ovulator”, and on the way to the hospital, Christina Aguilera’s Fighter blared from the car stereo. I wore a T-shirt emblazoned with “See you later, ovulator”, and on the way to the hospital, Christina Aguilera’s Fighter blared from the car stereo. The procedure lasted two and a half hours. The procedure lasted two and a half hours. I was given an epidural and a general anaesthetic, and had keyhole surgery. I realised that it’s been a long time since I’ve seen us just being carefree.

When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. Mum and Dad were there to greet me. I stayed in hospital for two nights and made such a good recovery, physically and mentally, that on the day that I was discharged, I joined my friends at the pub. I stayed in hospital for two nights and made such a good recovery, physically and mentally, that on the day that I was discharged, I joined my friends at the pub. Since the hysterectomy, I am living the life I always wanted, but never felt was possible. Since the hysterectomy, I am living the life I always wanted, but never felt was possible. Every single one of my PMDD symptoms has vanished. Every single one of my PMDD symptoms has vanished.

I can now picture the future – owning a house and having children; things, until now, I’ve never been stable enough to seriously imagine. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. My dream is to foster or adopt one day – whether I’m in a relationship or not. I haven’t even thought about dating. I haven’t even thought about dating. Of course, the hysterectomy can’t erase the pain I’ve been through. Of course, the hysterectomy can’t erase the pain I’ve been through.

It can’t give me back the lost years I spent detached from friends or unable to nurture a stable relationship, the many nights I lay sobbing under my duvet or the hurt I caused myself and those I love. It can’t give me back the lost years I spent detached from friends or unable to nurture a stable relationship, the many nights I lay sobbing under my duvet or the hurt I caused myself and those I love. Now, though, the eating disorder that plagued my life for years has disappeared, and I haven’t self-harmed since my surgery. The operation set me free. The operation set me free. The operation set me free. I’ll have hormone-replacement therapy for life, but it’s a small price to pay for having my world back. Many women who suffer from PMDD take their own lives. Many women who suffer from PMDD take their own lives.

I could have been one of them. I could have been one of them. I threw a hysterectomy party to celebrate the procedure. I threw a hysterectomy party to celebrate the procedure. As my friends and I played “pin the egg on the uterus” and had strawberry Baileys shots out of syringes, I caught sight of myself laughing. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. ◆ Think you might have PMDD? Know the symptoms They could be emotional, like mood swings, feeling overwhelmed and suicidal thoughts, or physical ones, such as breast tenderness, sleep problems and headaches.

Typically you will only experience symptoms for a week or two before a period, but it’s different for everyone. Typically you will only experience symptoms for a week or two before a period, but it’s different for everyone. Find a full list of symptoms at Mind. Find a full list of symptoms at Mind.org.org.uk. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months.

If you feel they aren’t taking you seriously, do this yourself – you can download mood charts from the internet to help you. Consider finding an advocate They can come to appointments to help make sure people listen to you. Consider finding an advocate They can come to appointments to help make sure people listen to you. It can be a friend or family member, or a professional advocate – find more details at Mind. It can be a friend or family member, or a professional advocate – find more details at Mind.org.org.uk.

If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free . If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free. If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free.

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Starting, on average, at around the time of ovulation and usually ending when a period arrives around two weeks later, the symptoms can include extreme anxiety, psychosis, depression and, at worst, wanting to harm yourself and others. Unlike PMS, PMDD can be so debilitating that work, social life and relationships may become impossible to manage for more than a few days a month. Unlike PMS, PMDD can be so debilitating that work, social life and relationships may become impossible to manage for more than a few days a month. The cause is not yet clear, but it’s thought that people with PMDD are more sensitive to the hormonal changes that come with your cycle. The cause is not yet clear, but it’s thought that people with PMDD are more sensitive to the hormonal changes that come with your cycle. At first I thought the idea was silly: surely there was no way that a period could have this much impact? But over the years, I’d been tracking my menstrual cycle on a calendar and writing about my mental health on a blog. At first I thought the idea was silly: surely there was no way that a period could have this much impact? But over the years, I’d been tracking my menstrual cycle on a calendar and writing about my mental health on a blog. When I looked at the two side by side, I was floored: every time my period was due, my mental health plummeted. I don’t think I’ve ever seen non-minority people rally around us to lift up our voices, leaving their houses in their thousands to say enough is enough in a way that I’ve never seen the likes of, ever before.

Everything matched up. Everything matched up. Everything matched up. In 2016, aged 26, I was officially diagnosed with PMDD. It was thought that the hormone progesterone was sending me haywire, so I was put on a three-month trial of oestrogen-only hormone therapy, which suppresses the menstrual cycle. It was thought that the hormone progesterone was sending me haywire, so I was put on a three-month trial of oestrogen-only hormone therapy, which suppresses the menstrual cycle. Different treatments work for different people, but hormone therapy worked for me. Different treatments work for different people, but hormone therapy worked for me. The doctors then put me on a temporary chemical-induced menopause. The doctors then put me on a temporary chemical-induced menopause. But don’t worry - we can do something about that.

It simulated what life would be like if I was to have a hysterectomy and my body stopped naturally producing progesterone. It was the best three months of my life. It was the best three months of my life. It was the best three months of my life. I didn’t have a single down day. In disbelief, I made a bucket list, determined to reclaim my life. In disbelief, I made a bucket list, determined to reclaim my life. They were minor things to most people, like going to Planet Hollywood and the hot-air Balloon Fiesta in Bristol, and visiting the Leaning Tower Of Pisa. They were minor things to most people, like going to Planet Hollywood and the hot-air Balloon Fiesta in Bristol, and visiting the Leaning Tower Of Pisa. So set boundaries.

My best friend and I booked a four-day trip to Italy. My best friend and I booked a four-day trip to Italy. Despite planning to come home if my mental health should plummet, there wasn’t a single difficult moment. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Gazing up at the Leaning Tower Of Pisa on my first holiday in five years, I breathed in the warm Italian air. Then and there, I decided that I couldn’t go back to life as it was before. One afternoon, two years after my diagnosis, my doctors broke something to me. One afternoon, two years after my diagnosis, my doctors broke something to me. This is so overwhelming.

The chemical menopause that had brought me so much bliss wasn’t a long-term solution because denying your body progesterone completely for an extended period of time can cause dangerous abnormal cell growth. The chemical menopause that had brought me so much bliss wasn’t a long-term solution because denying your body progesterone completely for an extended period of time can cause dangerous abnormal cell growth. Doctors told me I should consider having a full hysterectomy, removing my uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. Doctors told me I should consider having a full hysterectomy, removing my uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. While less invasive methods work for many other people with PMDD, sadly I was at the end of the treatment plan and this was the only option I had left. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. All the way home, I juggled the two options in my mind: did I really want a future where I couldn’t have my own child? I’d wanted to have a family ever since I was little. How would my mum feel? She’d always wanted grandkids. We’re people who were already tired and don’t need to take on the added burden of their education.

But that night, chatting things through with her, I realised that the PMDD would eventually mean she would lose me. But that night, chatting things through with her, I realised that the PMDD would eventually mean she would lose me. It had caused me to self-destruct. It had caused me to self-destruct. I couldn’t keep putting my family and friends through overdoses. I couldn’t keep putting my family and friends through overdoses. How could I have a child when I couldn’t even care for myself? My hysterectomy was booked for 7th May 2019. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. It was a gorgeous late spring day and I woke early, feeling galvanised and strong. Just being silly.

This was going to be the first day of the rest of my life. But still, a seed of doubt niggled: was I doing the right thing? What if it didn’t work? Mum and Dad came with me, and I had packed my overnight bag with a fluffy uterus draped in a superman cape that my mates had given me for good luck. But still, a seed of doubt niggled: was I doing the right thing? What if it didn’t work? Mum and Dad came with me, and I had packed my overnight bag with a fluffy uterus draped in a superman cape that my mates had given me for good luck. I wore a T-shirt emblazoned with “See you later, ovulator”, and on the way to the hospital, Christina Aguilera’s Fighter blared from the car stereo. I wore a T-shirt emblazoned with “See you later, ovulator”, and on the way to the hospital, Christina Aguilera’s Fighter blared from the car stereo. The procedure lasted two and a half hours. The procedure lasted two and a half hours. I was given an epidural and a general anaesthetic, and had keyhole surgery. I realised that it’s been a long time since I’ve seen us just being carefree.

When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. When I woke up, I was woozy and couldn’t feel my legs, but I couldn’t believe it had actually happened. Mum and Dad were there to greet me. I stayed in hospital for two nights and made such a good recovery, physically and mentally, that on the day that I was discharged, I joined my friends at the pub. I stayed in hospital for two nights and made such a good recovery, physically and mentally, that on the day that I was discharged, I joined my friends at the pub. Since the hysterectomy, I am living the life I always wanted, but never felt was possible. Since the hysterectomy, I am living the life I always wanted, but never felt was possible. Every single one of my PMDD symptoms has vanished. Every single one of my PMDD symptoms has vanished.

I can now picture the future – owning a house and having children; things, until now, I’ve never been stable enough to seriously imagine. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. I have frozen my eggs and I would like to try surrogacy, but expenses and fertility-clinic costs total around £30,000, so I’m not sure that’s an option. My dream is to foster or adopt one day – whether I’m in a relationship or not. I haven’t even thought about dating. I haven’t even thought about dating. Of course, the hysterectomy can’t erase the pain I’ve been through. Of course, the hysterectomy can’t erase the pain I’ve been through.

It can’t give me back the lost years I spent detached from friends or unable to nurture a stable relationship, the many nights I lay sobbing under my duvet or the hurt I caused myself and those I love. It can’t give me back the lost years I spent detached from friends or unable to nurture a stable relationship, the many nights I lay sobbing under my duvet or the hurt I caused myself and those I love. Now, though, the eating disorder that plagued my life for years has disappeared, and I haven’t self-harmed since my surgery. The operation set me free. The operation set me free. The operation set me free. I’ll have hormone-replacement therapy for life, but it’s a small price to pay for having my world back. Many women who suffer from PMDD take their own lives. Many women who suffer from PMDD take their own lives.

I could have been one of them. I could have been one of them. I threw a hysterectomy party to celebrate the procedure. I threw a hysterectomy party to celebrate the procedure. As my friends and I played “pin the egg on the uterus” and had strawberry Baileys shots out of syringes, I caught sight of myself laughing. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. It felt like the first time I’d done it in years. ◆ Think you might have PMDD? Know the symptoms They could be emotional, like mood swings, feeling overwhelmed and suicidal thoughts, or physical ones, such as breast tenderness, sleep problems and headaches.

Typically you will only experience symptoms for a week or two before a period, but it’s different for everyone. Typically you will only experience symptoms for a week or two before a period, but it’s different for everyone. Find a full list of symptoms at Mind. Find a full list of symptoms at Mind.org.org.uk. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months. Keep a diary Your doctor may ask you to keep a detailed record of symptoms for several months.

If you feel they aren’t taking you seriously, do this yourself – you can download mood charts from the internet to help you. Consider finding an advocate They can come to appointments to help make sure people listen to you. Consider finding an advocate They can come to appointments to help make sure people listen to you. It can be a friend or family member, or a professional advocate – find more details at Mind. It can be a friend or family member, or a professional advocate – find more details at Mind.org.org.uk.

If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free . If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free. If you’re experiencing suicidal feelings and are worried you may act on them, call 999, go straight to A&E or call Samaritans for free.