[Two Pronged] My parents are extremely conservative, and I feel so guilty going against them

Rappler’s Life and Style section runs an advice column by couple Jeremy Baer and clinical psychologist Dr. Margarita Holmes.

I feel a lot of guilt. I objectively know that there is nothing wrong with expressing individuality and sexual assault is never a woman’s fault. However, I am compelled to constantly ask for permission, have to fight a self-imposed curfew, and am a practicing non-religious. I am also a 35-year-old woman living on her own .

I love them and cannot cut contact. I know they were just born in a different time and had a different upbringing. They always say that they just don’t want me to forget the values that they taught me as a child and the teachings of the church. While I understand, I don’t agree with both their version of societal norms and the rituals of their dogma.

Perhaps you can slowly start to eliminate the lies, monitoring their reactions carefully to ensure that the relationship is kept intact. Marriage to a kind, understanding, and supportive man will not only legitimize sleeping over but with his help bolster your efforts to be your own vibrant self rather than a pallid reflection of your parents’ aspirations.Dear Donna:

No one can ever have a truly deep, emotionally intimate relationship without self disclosure about who you truly are, what you truly feel and do, what you want to be. I presume this is what your parents want to have with you. This is probably why they want you not to forget the values they taught you as a child, etc.

“Now it is up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want with me. It can be extremely pleasant, but one where talk is limited to the weather, politics, the price of onions. Or, it can sometimes be fraught, BUT we will bewith one another and share what we truly think and feel. You will get to know who I really am. I want you to know the real me, because if not these visits to you will be come tedious.

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