My daughter is 28, lives at home and doesn’t contribute anything. What should I do?

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She can’t keep a job due to drinking and we find drugs in her purse, which she denies. She loudly curses at my wife, eats and sleeps all day. We paid thousands for college and she dropped out

My 28-year-old daughter lives with my wife and me. I love her but I need to get her out of my life. She hates my wife who does everything for her. She can’t keep a job due to drinking and we find drugs in her purse, which she denies. She loudly curses at my wife, eats and sleeps all day, and doesn’t contribute one penny to household expenses. We paid thousands for college and she dropped out. I don’t work, I collect old-age benefits, which don’t amount to much.

Your daughter, seems to me, needs help in just about every aspect of her life. It’s hard to imagine anyone to whom the phrase “needs to make some changes” more readily applies.Of course, you may experience some pushback, especially if she’s not ready. But point out to her that, in the midst of our pandemic pandemonium, AA meetings have now gone virtual via Zoom and other platforms, and may stay that way for a while.

True, that’s easier said than done. Kicking a kid out of your house? Fughedaboudit, it has to be one of the most fraught familial interactions this life has to offer.But “it’s for her own good.” That should be your mantra going forward.

 

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Punt her from the tribe....

Question your parenting skills?

Introduce her to my son...hes 30...same story.

Give her to antifa. She will thrive.

Give her a bill

Lol put her in politics. She can become like jkenney in a few years.

James 5:16 — “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”

kick her out

Kick her out!!!

Living with parents too long eventually becomes counterproductive and even harmful

Tell her the next protest she attends , her bags will be packed and waiting for her on the porch when she returns

Kick her out!

The question is: Does she make you happy?

Tell her if she isn’t going to contribute to the family - she is going to need to drink the mailman’s piss

It’s called tough love, push her out of the nest. We all found our way, she will too.

Tell her to pull herself up by her bootstraps🤣🤣

But she does: She drinks Wine which generate taxes and profit for Companys. She takes pills which keep her sick and profitable for the Mega Corporations.

Maybe downsize living space, fix her up with dates?

Kick her out and know that it was your terrible parenting that caused this.

Maybe raise your kids right idk

Get her to volunteer for the LPC.

Lay down the law. She has to pitch in. Period. The fact that she's not is partially on you for not asking for it and allowing to go this far. She's taking you both for granted. She's 28....not a child.

I paid a small rent to my mom when I was 18

At 23 I had my masters was own my own. My parents contributed towards my education and that was that. At 32 I bought my first house with my own down payment living in Toronto downtown while paying rent. No looking back since them.

You need to evaluate your life. But after kicking her out.

It depends! Are you still dressing her ? Lol

Kick her outta the house.

Does she smoke weed and support Trudeau as well?

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stop voting left wing.

Throw her out!!

I don’t think she is the problem!!

Talk to her, reason to her that she needs to find a job and to contribute to the house. Do it with wisdom, patience and love.

get her a job at the globe and mail, they have nothing to write about! badreporting lazy

Move. No forwarding address.

Cut the internet 😅do not buy food for a week buy only for yourself

Kick her out.

Kick her ass out

She is an adult now. Tell her to act like one. That’s your duty as parent. Don’t treat her like a child. She does not follow your orders at 28. You tell her what your expectations are.

Stop paying for her internet, phone, don't give her pocket money and give her tent in the garden until she contributes

Kick her out...duh

Tell her to get a job and move out once the 3 month probation is over

Kick her ass out. Bye Bye !

Support her as long as she is ready to embrace the world on her own. She is your daughter not tenant.

hey what is up with the photo for this article? a whole bottle of booze and a bunch of pills? really? weird choice that normalizes problematic substance use. camh OntarioShores MHCC_ thoughts?

If she’s working, give her a time line such as 3 mos. to find her own place.

Kick her out !

Leave her alone.

You failed as a parent. Foreign cultures welcome thier kids to love at home. Lousy parenting Produces low value people.

Kick her out

I was like that. Then my parents kicked me out with $15.00 in my bank account and no job. I stayed with friends got a job, rented a room, crawled from the ground up. I didn’t speak to my parents for three years. That experience humbled me, also taught me that I could do it!

28?!?!?!?! Kick her out 4 years ago force her to be an adult. Wow!

Obviously you enabled her. Have you ever heard of tough love? Apply it.

Ask how can I help then listen

By the photo, you should drink wine and take pills. ?

Is the Globe and Mail a news source? This photo being used above the title in this article is tabloid worthy journalism.

'Kicking a kid out of your house? Fughedaboudit' 🙄🙄🙄 No, don't 'Fughedaboudit' .... every child in my house knows from the age they are old enough to understand that they live under my roof under 3 conditions. - Going to school - Saving for school - Working and paying rent.

Red wine and Oxy seem like a bad solution, try giving her more participation ribbons and hugs.....

First slap yourself for enabling this behaviour. This is bad parenting on your part for not instilling proper work ethic/values when she was younger. The next step is to insist on payment of rent along with contributing to household maintenance or move out. There common sense.

Give her a Timeline/ 6 months for her to start planning her Exit. This will benefit both she & the parents... Time for growth & Independence.

Slap yourself first. Then both of you grow up.

When my kids were 16 I bought them a set of luggage. I also started charging room and board and stopped buying them anything other than the essentials for them. After some heated debates, I stood my ground. The message was received them pulled up their socks.

Find some sucker to marry her.

Find a place, pay first and last month rent for her *AND KICK HER OUT* period, end of story.

You can cancel the Globe and Mail, unsubscibe from all the fake news media and watch all the culture issues melt away. Cancel MSM.

Right now? Hang in there and be glad you’re both alive. Take it slow!

Kids are a blessing

Expel

White people are crazy, my parents would never charge me to live with them 😂 what is wrong with y’all?

Hahahahaha

Give her a month then give her the boot.

Instead of rude, smart alec responses, talk to her, find out why. Likely depression or some kind of mental or even physical illness ? Talk to doctors as well. Encourage her to get going

My parents’ expected us to pay board once weren’t full-time students; I chose to get my own place instead, my sister lived at home for years. Both of us were taught the importance of saving and budgeting, and given a sense of how much housing costs. Now we are both mortgage-free.

Pills and wine? Seriously?

The problem isn't that she's still at home, it's that she doesn't contribute. Many cultures see the first part as normal, so did Canada many decades ago. The second part, if you've tried everything you can as a parent then be at peace that it's not you. Otherwise... Ya goofed.

TOUGH LOVE 😡❤️

Move, without telling her where.

Even asking that question means you are part of the problem.

actually no....deal with it....you raised her that way....

kick her out

live with it

If she's a typical urban 28 year old you just have to get into good music, decent films, and maybe watch Fox News a couple of hours a day. She'll tear out her hair and run for the hills screaming.about 'Orange Hitler' and gender fluidity.

Stop drinking. 🤔

Robins push their babies out of the nest. You should do the same.

Love them dick head!!!!

If you don't know, then there is no help.

As long as she has a job and doesn't ask for money otherwise then she's fine. She's your child they are forever, age is irrelevant.

Content available to subscribers? Brilliant marketing G&M. Instead of making me comfortable and giving me a taste of what you’re offering, you jam your hand in my pocket looking for money. That’s no way to treat a customer

Encourage her to become more independent and try to help as much as possible but don’t take her independence away from her!

Get her a Federal Government Job - they sit at home and do nothing as well

Tell her that she is too old to be in Antifa?

maybe lay off booze and pills and work on homelife with clear head

My father began charging me utilities when I was 9. I'd say leaving it until a person is 28 to make it clear they are a drain on the familial purse is on the late side although most see him as on the early side I'm not sure I agree.

Tell her being a protesting degenerate isn't a job and tell her to get the fck out and get a job

Quite common , somewhere we as parents failed them. High property costs and COVID have not helped.

Give her a specific amount of time to get a job, do chores and pay rent. Then evict her if she doesn't comply.

Tell her to become a professional protester. Soros pays $20 an hour, you just have to complain and yell.

Well, don't drink and take pills, eesh

First, send me a picture

Voice and demonstrate your trust that she will contribute to her familys and societys welfare ?

Wow. Really? With this photo to illustrate the article? Are you serious?

If you have to ask this question, then it is clear how you found yourself in this situation.

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