He keeps telling me he wants to, and I refuse to bug him about it because I don’t want him to think I’m nagging him.
I have been with my partner, “Hank,” for 25 years, but although he is legally separated, he is still married. We have lived together for 24 of these 25 years. He has two adult children with his wife. I used to be married and have two adult children with my ex-husband. Hank and I have one child together , as well.
Should I be concerned that he isn’t divorced? I love him and I know he loves me as well. Should I walk away after all this time, or should I nag him?I don’t think you clearly understand what the fact that Hank is still legally married means for your own future. If something should happen to him, HIS WIFE, not you, will be making all medical decisions for her husband, including whether he can have visitors.
Please discuss this with a lawyer who can give you more detail about the horror story that may lie ahead. Once you understand all the implications, discuss this with Hank, who should formally do now what he should have done a quarter of a century ago.Dear Abby: Should I leave my husband over his talks with other women?Dear Abby: I gave my daughter huge amounts of money but she cut me off anyway
I live on a nice, quiet street. My three neighbors are elderly. The single gentleman next door is fighting pancreatic cancer. The other two men have been showing interest in his house “if anything happens.” One of them even went over for a visit acting like he was a friend. After a few minutes, he mentioned he’d be interested in the house if he was going to be selling it. I am very upset that he would be so nervy and insensitive as to approach this guy! I want to let him know how I feel.
We don’t know what your neighbor’s estate plan involves or who will administer it in the event of his death. Knowing the name of the executor who will be handling matters after the inevitable happens would ease the process. That’s why I am advising you not to stir the pot. Your wife is right. You may wind up living next door to these people -- unless someone outbids them.When my son was in the second grade, his teacher recommended counseling because she thought he was introverted.
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