The crazy thing is that the very characteristics my siblings hated in our father are manifested in their lives.
DEAR ANNIE: Very late in my life, I realized I was raised and influenced in a narcissistic family. My late father was a narcissist, and my late mother was a patient, long-suffering enabler. My father had a governmental position where he was “in charge.” At home, he was also large and in charge, which suited his narcissism.
While this was happening, my siblings continued criticizing him, justly and unjustly, and basically severed ties. I encouraged them to reach out and would share things with them via text that I thought they may want to know from our visits Our father was in his 90s and clearly nearing the end of his life. I did not want my siblings to have any regrets.
Prior to this, I didn’t know anything about narcissism. Family members jokingly had called my father a narcissist. In hindsight, I think that the more we helped Dad, the more they resented me/us. The crazy thing is that the very characteristics they hated in our father are manifested in their lives.
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