A reader plans to propose to much-wealthier girlfriend, and worries the gesture will “lose something” with a simple ring.
I am planning to propose to my girlfriend in a few weeks. She knows it’s coming, we’ve discussed it, no real surprises.
I think a ring would be sweet and meaningful, and she loves jewelry. The problem is she outearns me significantly, and there is nothing within my price range that’s anywhere near as good as what she could buy for herself. I know that’s not the point, and she would NOT care, but the gesture loses something if the ring is subpar.
Is there a simple ring that’s worth buying even if it’s not impressive to the recipient? Having creative block is making the anticipation a little less buzzy.Having a ring custom made can be so much more precious than generic-expensive. The materials can be as humble or fine as your budget allows. A girlfriend who loves jewelry has favorite things you can photograph, right? Share them with an artisan to get design ideas.
· Girlfriend who outearns her partner here. What would make an engagement ring meaningful and significant to me is that it is the ring that my partner picked out for me and proposed to me with. Money comes easily to me, so something being expensive doesn’t add to its emotional weight. · I know there are women who care more about the price tag than the ring, but who wants to marry one of them? Pretty sure, from the tone of your post, your intended doesn’t fall into that category. Choose from your heart, and the ring will speak to hers.
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