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AKA is going through his own private hell, let’s give him space to grieve in peace

Once again, the internet proved that it is a vile and ugly place.

2021-04-12 06:18:00 PM

In dealing with all this, fans expect AKA to engage with them, when what he really needs is empathy and the privacy to grieve in peace. nellietembe RIPNellieTembe AKA

Once again, the internet proved that it is a vile and ugly place.

ShareJust as soon as the new broke of Anele “Nellie“ Tembe’s fatal fall from a Cape Town hotel, social media went into overdrive, speculating about her unexpected death.The 22-year-old was the fiancée of rapper AKA, real name Kiernan Forbes. The couple had been dating for just over a year.

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They had been in Cape Town for a gig that he was headlining, and had been spotted at the Waterfront earlier that day, shopping for clothes for their traditional wedding ceremony.There was an outpouring of messages to Forbes and the Tembe family, with celebs and fans sending their condolences.

And then there was the darker side.Although the events leading to her death have not been revealed and are under investigation, Twitter users were quick to jump to conclusions, some even questioning the rapper’s involvement.Others asked why he hadn’t said anything publicly for someone who is always vocal on social media. headtopics.com

What most forgot to acknowledge was the grief and pain of losing someone that mattered dearly to him.Losing someone or something important to you can be incredibly difficult. It destabilises your perception of reality, creates a void and triggers pain that is often extremely challenging to manage.

And losing someone in a violent or unexpected way can be very traumatic.“Families of victims often react with shock, numbness or dissociation (feeling like it’s a dream),” said counselling psychologist Rakhi Beekrum.“In the midst of coming to terms with the violent loss/es, they are often still required to comply with police investigations, autopsy reports, planning funerals and so on.”

In dealing with all this, fans expect AKA to engage with them, when what he really needs is empathy and the privacy to grieve in peace.He owes us nothing – not a why, not a how and not a what.For those who are dealing with the loss of a loved one, the South African Depression and Anxiety Group suggests:

Get supportSupport from others is important in the healing process. It’s important to express your feelings with people you trust when you’re grieving. Accept support; don’t try to grieve alone, no matter how strong and self-sufficient you are. Sometimes people want to help but don’t know how to – tell them what you need. headtopics.com

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Take care of yourselfThe stress of loss can deplete your energy and emotional reserves very quickly. Look after your physical and emotional needs.Face your feelingsYou may be able to suppress your grief for a while but you can’t avoid it. Healing means facing your feelings and acknowledging your pain. Unresolved grief can also lead to depression, anxiety, substance abuse and health problems.

Express your feelingsIn whatever way makes sense to you, express your feelings. Write about your loss in a journal; write a letter saying the things you never got to say; make a scrapbook or photo album; get involved in a cause or organisation that was important to him or her; or allow yourself alone time to mourn in your own way. Keeping your pain bottled up doesn’t help you heal.

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O bolela mpsa fela bhari ke wena Which fans ke because you definitely aint talking about Megacy. Please sanusiqhela Skare tlwaela wena Just a little word from him, just smallanyana clue of what led to her passing. Not much then he can rest. Musani ukunya tseq. We are the Megacy and we didn't say he must engage with us.Sikhala naye sicela ningazodakwa.

How do you know he is grieving? Huh? imagine using his fans to pressure a response from someone that has lost his partner in such a tragic way😥😥absolutely tasteless, heartless...what a new low Which fans? Stop writing nonsense seeking for engagement, y'all are fucked up. None of the Megacy is expecting that from Kiernan, le ngola kaak at times mxm!

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Twitter concerned for wellbeing of AKA and fiancé Nelli Tembe | The CitizenThe body of a 22-year-old woman was allegedly found deceased on the corners of Loop and Bloem Street in the Cape Town CBD on Sunday morning.

Mxxmmm Fans tse feng? Haibo!! Which fans are you talking about? Can't be us, we know better than that. Stop it. Don't publish rubbish you Mumu. Megacy does not do such makaka. Which fans ? 'PRIVATE HELL', wow! Which fans? Did we tell you that we want to engage with him?

AKA ’inconsolable’ after tragic death of fiancée Anele TembeThe family of Anele Tembe and her fiancé SA rapper AKA have confirmed her death in a statement released on Sunday. They looked happy together, may she rest in peace.💔Strength to Aka and the family.

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Families in shock after hotel death of Nelli Tembe, fiancée of AKATembe apparently fell from the 10th floor of the hotel early on Sunday morning I for one don’t buy this story that she fell,this laaitie must tell the truth.. Fell or jumped?! Wow the first time I heard of someone tripping and falling out of a hotel. SA really messed up

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