Your Relationships Affect Your Resiliency

You can't always chose your relationships, but you can chose your responses.

6/24/2021 5:42:00 AM

The difficult people in your life can lower your mood and well-being. Here's how to protect yourself.

You can't always chose your relationships, but you can chose your responses.

, you’re not alone. Toxic people can affect our resiliency because constant negativity can drain us and make us feel worn down. This blog encourages you to think about how you can modify your behavior and control how you respond to other people to minimize the effect of their toxicity and maximize your

NJ governor to require masks for K-12 students, school staff Moderna's Covid-19 vaccine shows 93% efficacy through 6 months, as company expects to finish application for approval this month Jennifer Aniston Stands By Decision to Cut Off Un-Vaccinated Friends Amid Coronavirus Pandemic - E! Online

resilience. To the extent possible, you want to create a close-knit circle of people you trust and who are going to build you up, not burn you out.First, you must assess how people are affecting you emotionally. We don’t have control over the people we work with—or often even in our personal lives—but noticing how we feel when we are around them can help us begin to protect ourselves from the negativity they may bring to the conversation.

Start to notice how others affect you by asking yourself how you feel when your interaction with them is over. If you’re smiling, or you feel encouraged, that’s a good sign. Maybe they made you laugh or gave you a compliment—or maybe they are just easy to be around. On the contrary, if you leave your interactions with certain individuals feeling discouraged, sad, or frustrated, notice whether it’s something they said or did that made you feel this way.

As we begin to observe patterns in our interactions, we can think about making changes. Noticing that we feel discouraged or exhausted after interactions with certain individuals allows us to think about what kind of change we can make. It may be the coworker who always complains, or the friend who always needs our counsel. If the relationship is long-lasting and there is mutual trust, we may be able to address this interaction directly. However, if it’s someone that we don’t know as well or we haven’t known as long, it may mean that we have to keep the conversations shorter, not be constantly available to the person, or, in some cases, end the relationship.

If it’s a relationship that you don’t get to choose to end, such as one with a coworker, think about how their behavior affects you and how you can protect yourself. Negativity can be contagious, so someone who complains, says hurtful things, or generally has a negative attitude can become toxic if you have to interact with them regularly. Sometimes, positive

self-talkgoes a long way after a hard conversation. In addition, you may have to offset these conversations by intentionally making time for people who are a positive source of encouragement.Resiliency, or the ability to bounce back and stay positive, can be affected by the quality of our relationships, as well as what individuals bring to us from their own perspectives. Therefore, don’t be hard on yourself if you feel the need to take a break from certain people, or if you need to limit your contact with them. Your mental health is worth being thoughtful about the people that you allow in your life.

Read more: Psychology Today »

Turtle returns to sea after months of injury treatment

Home at last! Taking her sweet time, a sea turtle sauntered slowly back to sea on Thursday after months recovering from an injury.

HashemAlAttasP1 Yeah exactly! We need to get rid of them to enjoy our life and live in peace I couldn't agree more. Thank you for this wonderful article. Before having read this, I've already been occasionally taking breaks even from my immediate fam and best buddies. I thought I was being selfish. I wasn't all along~

You can chose your responses all you want. Chronically toxic people will continue to attack you anyway... so you might as well respond in a BLANK MANNER. My Video: 'Blank Wall'. Learn what it is, and start applying it...Nothing to buy or join. Indeed. Absolutely.

Khloé Kardashian Broke Up with Tristan Thompson Again Because She 'Felt Too Betrayed by Him''He lost all of her trust and the relationship could not be repaired.'

A Good Relationship With My Doctor Makes Life With UC EasierLiving with any chronic illness can be difficult, but having a good relationship with your doctor can go a long way towards making things easier.

Why Online Dating Works for Some and Not OthersCould shifting your mindset make online dating more successful and enjoyable? GSeidmanPhD explains. GSeidmanPhD I think a positive mindset can help with just about anything! I met my husband on okcupid! GSeidmanPhD No, I highly doubt it.

Can We Be in Love and Indifferent at the Same Time?'It is often assumed that sensitivity is a pillar of romantic relationships, and for good reason. However, too much romantic sensitivity can overburden a relationship.'

What Type of Partner Do Narcissists and Psychopaths Seek?People with Dark Triad personality traits tend to attract others who are similar. ArashEmamzadeh explains why. ArashEmamzadeh I’m not sure I agree here but I appreciate this view. This may be the “norm” but, in my experience, I see the psychopath/narcissist mating with someone they can abuse. I’m not a doctor though. Just my experience. ArashEmamzadeh h3h3productions ArashEmamzadeh I read this article as the other way around. It’s interesting, but not helpful for many (majority women) who are abused by NPD partners, and find it hard to explain, or even be believed, about their lived experience of crazy making, coercive abuse.

Selena Gomez Said She Felt 'So Less Than' in Past RelationshipsSelena Gomez Said She Felt 'So Less Than' in Her Previous Relationships