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You Can’t Go to College With Your Kid. But You Can Pretend on Facebook.

Cure for the empty nest or parental monitoring gone awry?

12.9.2019

Whether they are an inevitable sign of hyper-connected times or something closer to next-level helicopter parenting, Facebook groups for parents of college students are on the rise

Cure for the empty nest or parental monitoring gone awry?

More than 30 minutes ticked by before Ms. Tananbaum knew her son was fine; he just hadn’t been checking his phone. “When he wrote back, he said: ‘I’m on the quad where I’m supposed to be,’” she said. “He was like, ‘You can stop now.’”

Ms. Tananbaum sees the Facebook group as a “curse and a blessing”: useful for advice for move-in day and for local recommendations, like when her son injured a finger and needed an orthopedist.

Whether they are an inevitable sign of hyper-connected times or something closer to next-level helicopter parenting, Facebook groups for parents of college students are on the rise. So far in 2019, more than 200,000 people have joined university parent groups on Facebook in the United States, a 50 percent jump from this time last year, according to Leonard Lam, a company spokesman.

From her home in Nantucket, Mass. — also the setting for several of her beachy romance novels — Ms. Hilderbrand was transfixed by posts about the intense world of sorority rush at the university, where first-year female students arrive a week before the school year begins to advance through elimination rounds in hopes of a bid.

Parents also rely on college groups to ask about mattress toppers, frown on difficult professors (“My daughter is very good in math, but her professor isn’t teaching at all,” read a recent post in a Clemson mothers group), arrange “care-package parties” and set up parent “sip and sobs” near campus after drop-off.

In an era when some parents are spending thousands of dollars to turn their children’s dorm rooms into cushy retreats with upholstered headboards and giant flat-screen TVs, expectations are high.

She also creates calendar events to build anticipation for football “watch parties,” where parents enthusiastically comment with their reactions. When Ms. Becker’s daughter came down with mono, a local mother in the group delivered ginger ale, crackers and an air mattress for Ms. Becker, while she made the drive from five hours away.

That didn’t stop Cassidy Payne, who, when she was a senior at Virginia Tech, slipped past gatekeepers with a fake Facebook profile and

“Little did we know that by the time we had settled into our dorm rooms and watched the family car roll away, our mothers and fathers had already become members of a secret society,” Ms. Payne wrote. The conclusion: “Our parents will always be our parents, no matter if you’re halfway across the globe or a two hour drive down 81. And they have no shame in asking for recommendations for the best cures of explosive diarrhea for their DS or DD.”

A cold does not require parent intervention, she noted. “In that circumstance the dorm staff is the resource, and you can tell your kid, ‘Honey, have your R.A. help you out — that’s why they’re there.’”

She said that the group has been a success. In a poll of families about where they got most of their information, the Parent and Family Facebook group ranked highest, above the school website or families’ own students. Ms. Hurley has used features like Facebook Live to help answer parent questions, like when she gave a video tour of the student health center.

Read more: The New York Times

aloh_vera i LOVE this twitter caption it's Artful Hilarious Funny and Witty i am pretty sure i would marry this caption if it didn't remind me of my father The only parts of my college experience shared with my parents were my grades and graduation. And all concerned parties were grateful for that. College is a time when kids are supposed to try their hand at independence for the first time. That’s not going to happen when tech keeps people glued to the hips.

Every child’s dream to graduate and go to college and begin their journeys into adulthood....... monitored by their parents on Facebook 🤦‍♂️ I’m so sick of hearing about “helicopter parenting”. Boomers parented like they’ve done everything else - in whatever way was best for THEM at that particular moment. And the world is on fire. Leave Gen X alone as we try to pick up the pieces.

Going to college ia good for take your sertification to be students. Sertification will make peoples believe you are is smart. And than have position in organisation. So, blow your mind. Just a guess, but maybe with all the mass murders going on... Parents...get your own lives People need to re-learn how to live fulfilling lives offline, in....reality. This is grotesque.

Beta-ism is on the rise, you mean.

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