Meg Stalter Understands The Pressure Of Being The Big Spoon

12/2/2021 2:40:00 AM

Comedian, actress, and makeup aficionado @megstalter discusses spooning, friendship, hair extensions, and more.

Comedian, actress, and makeup aficionado megstalter discusses spooning, friendship, hair extensions, and more.

Refinery29 talks with actress Meg Stalter about her collaboration with Harmless Harvest, her favorite beauty products, and how to survive Spooning Season.

““You just have to get ready and do your makeup the way you really want to do it, and the way that you feel is most fun for you and not for other people."”Stalter doesn’t shy away from a big, bodacious makeup and hair look, and doesn’t think you should, either. “You just have to get ready and do your makeup the way you really want to do it, and the way that you feel is most fun for you and not for other people,” she says. “Because not everyone likes the makeup I wear, but I really love it. In some videos, I've had people comment, ‘Oh my god

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“ “You just have to get ready and do your makeup the way you really want to do it, and the way that you feel is most fun for you and not for other people." ” Stalter doesn’t shy away from a big, bodacious makeup and hair look, and doesn’t think you should, either. Unfortunately, threat brain strategies such as fighting, fleeing, and freezing rarely support good relationships and, in the case of trauma dumping, help neither party. “You just have to get ready and do your makeup the way you really want to do it, and the way that you feel is most fun for you and not for other people,” she says. Northampton GP Dr Jamie Green said the rollout feels "like a bit of a joke". “Because not everyone likes the makeup I wear, but I really love it. Ask yourself: "What did I do as a child to secure approval, attention , and love from my parents?" and consider where you fall on the continuum from submissive (e. In some videos, I've had people comment, ‘Oh my god , the bad makeup totally pulled the video together’, and.

., people-pleasing) to dominant (e. The rollout was expanded in response to the emerging Omicron variant.. it's really just what I was wearing that day, but I just can't care what other people think., competitive and achievement-oriented).” As someone who believes that at times just being a woman on the internet is an act of rebellion, I can’t agree more. "We need to understand what we are going to be allowed to stop doing," he added.  “I think if you're afraid of something, if you're afraid of wearing something, that might mean that you really want to wear it, and you should just give it a go. This means learning to say no in a non-defensive way.

To get ready for yourself, it always makes you feel more hot and confident, because you are doing it for you, and not for someone else," Stalter continued. It may be a bizarre form of exposure therapy, but it works. Let your friend/partner know that when your threat brain is activated, it makes trauma worse, and research shows that breathing slowly and regularly is better than talking when we are feeling fearful. "We're struggling to do the over-50s," he said. You're the only person who has to live in your own body, and if you're wearing something because you want to try it, power to you. From time to time, it's great to break out of your routine and shimmy it up a bit. Don't see this person when you are tired or . “The more you wear it, the more you'll get used to it." "I'm not convinced what Boris Johnson has announced has been thought through," he added.

I think when I get scared about wearing something wild, I'm like, ‘Oh, it means that I actually really want to wear it,’ so I'll just do it. Trauma dumping is not the same as having post-traumatic stress disorder. And then I always get compliments when I dress like that for myself.” Advertisement The one thing about beauty that still squicks Stalter out? Hair extensions. It is not an appropriate term to describe people who have experienced genuine trauma and find themselves overwhelmed because of it.". “I always think it's weird and bizarre, because the hair looks so much like my hair, and it's not a wig. You know what I mean? I think it's really strange — I'm touching my hair, and I can't tell if it's the extension or my own hair because it looks identical. Trauma dumping, on the other hand, requires the listener to manage the impact on themselves and the relationship.

I don't know how they do it, how they can match hair," Stalter gushed."You are showing up to my house to do my hair, and you already have the extensions. (2021) Being With Others: Curses, Spells and Scintillations. How you got this from a picture.. Wickremasinghe, N (2021) Beyond Threat..

how does it match perfectly?” Extension specialists are a special type of wizard, with their ability to look at someone’s head and say “I know what color that is,” and then find other hair that matches the hair they just looked at. More. It’s magic. I want to know, but I don’t want to break the illusion. Some secrets aren't meant for us common folk to know. “ "To get ready for yourself, it always makes you feel more hot and confident, because you are doing it for you, and not for someone else.

" ” To bring the spooning narrative full circle, I had to end the conversation with Stalter about her favorite position. Spooning position, you weirdos. Would she rather be the big spoon, the little spoon, or be entwined like two fork tines with your legs with your feet in their face? “Definitely not that option. I don't know if I would like th—Well, you know, sometimes I don't, actually I'll take it back. I really don't mind that either.

” At this moment, I am thrilled I gave her the option. “I think I like to mix it up, and it depends on the person. If it's to be honest, if it's a family member you're sleeping by, I actually would probably sleep with my feet by their head right?” Exactly, Meg. Exactly. “I think I'm normally the little spoon, but I don't mind mixing it up,” Stalter explains.

“You can't pick just one. I think, right? You can't say I'm never going to be the other spoon, because I think everybody wants to be both once in a while.”  But of course, one position comes with more pressure than the other. “I think the big spoon is nerve wracking because you don't know when to pull away, you have too much power there. I'll feel bad, [wondering] am I pulling away too soon, is the person going to be sad? That's probably why I don't know when to stop, but I like to mix it up.

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