Dear Abby: When going gets tough, husband locks his door

1/20/2022 8:10:00 AM

Dear Abby: When going gets tough, husband locks his door

Dear Abby: When going gets tough, husband locks his door

DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I fight, which isn't really that often, he shuts himself away for several days. He locks the door to his office or the guest room and won't come out. I try to give him time to cool off, but sometimes it's awkward. He wouldn't talk to me at all for several days while his whole family was here celebrating his grandma's 90th birthday.

Updated: Jan.Updated: Jan.Dear Abby: This disastrous affair left me bitter and mistrustful Peter may tell me these things because he wants me to know lots of women are willing to have him.‘Dance Moms’ star Abby Lee Miller claims she was threatened by prison guards Abby Lee Miller is suing the Hampton Inn & Suites by Hilton for $8.

20, 2022, 12:01 a.m.m.| Published: Jan.Unfortunately, not knowing your fiancé, I can’t answer them.20, 2022, 12:01 a.19, 2022, 12:01 a.m.” Miller, 56, also alleges in court papers that hotel guests did not help her despite her pleas, but two staff members did finally lift the door off of her.

By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I fight, which isn’t really that often, he shuts himself away for several days.By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: My fiance, “Peter,” has a number of female friends I’m not comfortable with, primarily because they are women he “had” interest in before we started dating.Peter appears to be immature, and that’s a red flag.He locks the door to his office or the guest room and won’t come out.I try to give him time to cool off, but sometimes it’s awkward.He recently told me one of them told him a guy had proposed to her but she’s delaying accepting in case Peter becomes available.He wouldn’t talk to me at all for several days while his whole family was here celebrating his grandma’s 90th birthday.I thought we were very happy for the first 25.He’s mad again.I believe it’s because of the way he relates to these girls.Miller starred on “Dance Moms” for eight seasons.

I apologized by text since he wouldn’t talk to me, but our kids -- ages 6 and 8 -- are going to wonder why Daddy isn’t with us.Should I skip a planned event and give him more time to cool off or try to approach him? -- WAITING FOR HIM IN GEORGIA DEAR WAITING: Skip the planned event, and when your passive-aggressive husband comes out of hiding, INSIST the two of you get marriage counseling to resolve your differences.Peter may tell me these things because he wants me to know lots of women are willing to have him.But the house we have moved into causes me a lot of anxiety because of the traffic noise.What he has been doing isn’t healthy for your marriage.Dealing with conflict by hiding and using the silent treatment to punish one’s spouse sets a poor example for your children, who are old enough to recognize that something is wrong between Daddy and Mommy.Could it be he just likes “talking” to women even though it leads them on? And is this behavior healthy for a future marriage? -- SECOND THOUGHTS DEAR SECOND THOUGHTS: You are asking intelligent questions.If he won’t do it for the sake of your marriage, he should do it for the emotional health of those kids.He claims he has provided for others all these years, and now it’s his turn to get what he wants.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.I can, however, offer this: When couples become serious, they stop playing games.** ** ** DEAR ABBY: I will be meeting an old high school friend for lunch.We are now in our 50s.Peter appears to be immature, and that’s a red flag.He refuses to go to counseling, but I have gone, to help with my anxiety.I heard through the grapevine that she never had children.I am unsure what to say when the subject of children comes up, as it invariably will.Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.

“I’m sorry” may not be appropriate because perhaps she never wanted any.Help! BACK UP AGAINST THE WALL DEAR BACK: I can’t change your husband’s attitude and, apparently, neither can you.“Wow” or “interesting” may sound a bit odd.I thought we were very happy for the first 25.In a similar vein, what does one say to someone when they share that they are divorced? I recall a woman I met telling me she was divorced.I said, “I’m sorry,” and she replied, “I’m not!” What’s an appropriate response for when these situations happen? I don’t want to appear unsympathetic, but perhaps they don’t want sympathy.We sold our large house, which I was more than willing to do.You have decisions to make that should not be taken lightly or decided while you are emotional.-- SYMPATHETIC IN FLORIDA DEAR SYMPATHETIC: You may have hit on something.

The birthrate in the United States is at an all-time low because many women have chosen to forgo motherhood.My husband is very forceful about his “right” to choose where we live.If someone tells you she doesn’t have children, all you have to say is “Oh,” and change the subject.You should not interrogate the person further.He claims he has provided for others all these years, and now it’s his turn to get what he wants.As for the subject of divorce, sometimes dissolution of a marriage is therapeutic.Do not ask for -- or expect -- more details.Although I love him with all my heart, I wonder if I’d be better off throwing in the towel.

Show an interest in what your old friend is doing NOW and move on from there.** ** ** DEAR ABBY: My late husband was a dentist.After three years in this new home, I don’t see any sign he will change his ways.Should I include his DDS degree on his headstone? -- NOT SURE IN THE SOUTH DEAR NOT SURE: Although your husband may be deceased and no longer practicing dentistry, it doesn’t make him any less a dentist.He earned his degree.Help! -- BACK UP AGAINST THE WALL DEAR BACK: I can’t change your husband’s attitude and, apparently, neither can you.If you would like it carved in granite, I don’t see why it shouldn’t be.

Inquire at the cemetery about its protocol.Your therapist will help you to decide whether you can continue living with someone who refuses to recognize your contributions to the marriage and who has such a controlling, authoritarian attitude.** ** ** Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.Contact Dear Abby at or P.You deserve peace of mind and an equal voice about where you choose to live.O.Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.Contact Dear Abby at or P.

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