Dear Abby: Man’s history of sexual abuse hidden for years

1/21/2022 12:05:00 PM

Dear Abby: Man’s history of sexual abuse hidden for years

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Dear Abby: Man’s history of sexual abuse hidden for years

DEAR ABBY: During my teenage years, I was repeatedly raped by my brother. The emotional and physical damage has left my life broken. He is now in a long-term relationship. Should I tell his girlfriend about the abuse? When I confronted him about it years ago, he denied it. If you were his girlfriend, wouldn't YOU want to know? -- HOLDING A SECRET

** ** **DEAR ABBY: I have just been diagnosed with cancer. I doubt that I will live another 10 years. My wife is arguing with me because I want to draw down my 401(k) over the next 10 years so I can enjoy the savings I have accrued during my long career. We are talking about a LOT of money, Abby -- expensive cars, expensive second homes, extravagant vacations.

How can I convince her that I deserve this after having worked for 40 years, and that we should enjoy these savings for the period of time left for me on Earth? -- WANTS TO ENJOY LIFE NOWDEAR WANTS: I’m sure your diagnosis has been frightening for both you and your wife. She may be worried that if you plow through all the money, there will be nothing left for her after you are gone. Although you are dubious about it, there is also the possibility that you may live 10 more years and beyond. That’s why this is an important subject you and your wife should discuss with a financial adviser.

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Dear Abby: When going gets tough, husband locks his doorDEAR ABBY: When my husband and I fight, which isn't really that often, he shuts himself away for several days. He locks the door to his office or the guest room and won't come out. I try to give him time to cool off, but sometimes it's awkward. He wouldn't talk to me at all for several days while his whole family was here celebrating his grandma's 90th birthday.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.Dear Abby: I’m not loved but I’m stuck with my husband She may be worried that if you plow through all the money, there will be nothing left for her after you are gone.Updated: Jan.Despite professional hockey being overwhelmingly white, Roque -- a member of the Ojibwe tribe of the First Nations of Canada -- sees hockey and indigenous culture as complementary to one another with both invoking a deep sense of community.

** ** ** DEAR ABBY: I have just been diagnosed with cancer. I doubt that I will live another 10 years. That’s why this is an important subject you and your wife should discuss with a financial adviser. My wife is arguing with me because I want to draw down my 401(k) over the next 10 years so I can enjoy the savings I have accrued during my long career. | Published: Jan. We are talking about a LOT of money, Abby -- expensive cars, expensive second homes, extravagant vacations. The emotional and physical damage has left my life broken. How can I convince her that I deserve this after having worked for 40 years, and that we should enjoy these savings for the period of time left for me on Earth? -- WANTS TO ENJOY LIFE NOW DEAR WANTS: I’m sure your diagnosis has been frightening for both you and your wife. Who is Abby Roque? Abby Roque is an American ice hockey forward from Sault Ste.

She may be worried that if you plow through all the money, there will be nothing left for her after you are gone. Should I tell his girlfriend about the abuse? When I confronted him about it years ago, he denied it. By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I fight, which isn’t really that often, he shuts himself away for several days. Although you are dubious about it, there is also the possibility that you may live 10 more years and beyond. That’s why this is an important subject you and your wife should discuss with a financial adviser. I’ll bet your parents would have also wanted to know. ** ** ** DEAR ABBY: I work in an office where people occasionally bring in treats to share with co-workers. He wouldn’t talk to me at all for several days while his whole family was here celebrating his grandma’s 90th birthday. Usually, we place the goodies in a common area and let others know there’s food available and they’re welcome to it. By all means tell the girlfriend, particularly if she has a daughter. She described her hometown of Sault Ste.

The problem I’m having is that one particular co-worker brings in treats and shares them only with her favorite office buddies. She’s not discreet about it either.S. Should I skip a planned event and give him more time to cool off or try to approach him? -- WAITING FOR HIM IN GEORGIA DEAR WAITING: Skip the planned event, and when your passive-aggressive husband comes out of hiding, INSIST the two of you get marriage counseling to resolve your differences. She struts around the office and makes a big scene delivering her homemade treats to her friends, right in front of the people she has chosen not to include. Should she be confronted and told she’s being rude and inconsiderate, or should her behavior just be ignored? -- MISSING OUT DEAR MISSING OUT: What your co-worker is doing is rude. Contact RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) for more guidance. This is a lesson in politeness and consideration for others that children in grammar school usually learn. If he won’t do it for the sake of your marriage, he should do it for the emotional health of those kids.  What is shinny? Shinny is a Native American sport that is a cross between hockey and lacrosse.

(Perhaps she was playing hooky that day.org.) That said, if there’s no rule in your office against it, I do not advise confronting her. Turnabout is fair play, and perhaps you should discuss a “delicious” solution with the rest of the unfavored few. Usually, we place the goodies in a common area and let others know there’s food available and they’re welcome to it. We are now in our 50s. ** ** ** Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P. She’s not discreet about it either. Her uncle, , is chief of the Wahnapitae.

O. “I’m sorry” may not be appropriate because perhaps she never wanted any. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Should she be confronted and told she’s being rude and inconsiderate, or should her behavior just be ignored? MISSING OUT DEAR MISSING OUT: What your co-worker is doing is rude. ** ** ** To order “How to Write Letters for All Occasions,” send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $8 (U.S. (Perhaps she was playing hooky that day. I said, “I’m sorry,” and she replied, “I’m not!” What’s an appropriate response for when these situations happen? I don’t want to appear unsympathetic, but perhaps they don’t want sympathy. funds) to: Dear Abby -- Letter Booklet, P. Ferroni built a locker room for Roque that provided her privacy and easy access to the team locker room.

O. Turnabout is fair play, and perhaps you should discuss a “delicious” solution with the rest of the unfavored few. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. If someone tells you she doesn’t have children, all you have to say is “Oh,” and change the subject. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.) COPYRIGHT 2022 ANDREWS MCMEEL SYNDICATION 1130 Walnut, Kansas City, MO 64106; 816-581-7500 Note to readers: if you purchase something through one of our affiliate links we may earn a commission. Disclaimer . Do not ask for -- or expect -- more details. “But you know, there's an influence right there.