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You can’t change the past, so why give advice to your younger self? | Oliver Burkeman

You can’t change the past, so why give advice to your younger self? | Oliver Burkeman

12.7.2019

You can’t change the past, so why give advice to your younger self? | Oliver Burkeman

It’s something both Bill Gates and Kesha have done – but whether it truly helps is another matter

Of course, if “advising your younger self” were just a happiness-boosting technique for calling to mind everything you’ve learned in life, nobody could object. But, browsing the replies to the study, what you sense, far more frequently, is the shiver of regret. People truly wish they hadn’t married so young, chosen a career to please their parents, or spent their money instead of saving it. And this only brings into focus the fact that regret, while entirely understandable, is a fundamentally self-contradictory emotion: the very fact that you’re feeling it means that you’ve grown into the kind of person who can look back critically on what you did in the past, when you were another kind of person. Which means that, judged by your present values, you’ve emerged from your life experience better than before, and ought (rationally speaking, anyhow) to be happy rather than regretful.

Because the crucial issue, after all, isn’t what you might have done differently in the past, had you been someone that you couldn’t have been back then. It’s what you’d do now, if you treated yourself with half the kindness and goodwill you unhesitatingly extend to your favourite relatives or friends. For many people, I know, this can be a major challenge. But unlike changing the past, it has the enormous advantage of not being impossible.

Read more: The Guardian

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