When I adopted my nephew I became a single mum overnight

'I had zero experience of looking after a child, let alone raising one'

10/29/2020 10:00:00 PM

'I had zero experience of looking after a child, let alone raising one'

Apart from the odd bit of babysitting for cousins and friends I had zero experience of looking after a child, let alone raising one.

AdvertisementAdvertisementOver the years it has been quite the rollercoaster, but our relationship has flourished beautifully.Now 10, Raffio is a total character and an instant charmer. He is always on the go and with a story to tell. When he was much younger he would refer to me as his darling and he still sometimes calls me that, which is very endearing.

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What I love most about him is his ability to empathise with others. Raffio has a very caring side and on days when I am run down or feeling under the weather he wants to take care of me.I always wanted him to maintain some sort of contact with his biological parents, so opted for an open adoption, which means they were able to have some sort of contact, whether it was physical or through letters.

I often look back at his baby pics and they instantly transport me to a time and a place which seems so long ago now. (Picture: Suzi Mann)So far, due to personal circumstances they haven’t been able to be involved much in his life. But I’m really happy that Raffio has got a really close and strong relationship with his former foster mum whose care he was in from day two of coming into this world until he was placed with me.

While over our first couple of years together my sole focus was ensuring Raffio settled with minimal disruption, I’m opening up to the idea of dating. Although if I meet a man who is worth my time and is genuine, then he needs to accept all of me, the whole package – and that includes my son.

AdvertisementNearly nine years on from the day that little boy turned up to my house, I sometimes wish I could turn the clock back to relive those priceless moments over again.I often look back at his baby pics and they instantly transport me to a time and a place which seems so long ago now.

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