'If a woman is murdered by a man she doesn't know, it is because he wanted to murder her. There is no other reason'
Safety tips for women continue to suggest murderers have an excuse for killing.
As Det Ch Supt Lawry says, of course women "should" be able to walk around free from fear. And of course the problem is with the men who murder them rather than the women wearing headphones. And of course women should not have to modify their behaviour in order to not be attacked or abducted or raped or killed.
But "worrying about our safety is an integral part of our existence as women," said Kelly Grehan, a director of 50:50 Parliament, a cross-party campaign group promoting gender equality."It is drummed into us from a young age that our actions determine our safety: when we were only allowed to go in public toilets in pairs, given rape alarms at secondary school and told we were 'asking for it' or 'jailbait' when we tried to dress like the pop stars we idolised before some of us had even started menstruating."
The killings of Ms Nessa, Ms Everard, Ms Henry and Ms Smallman create an extra frisson of fear because their randomness indicates all women are at risk. If Ms Nessa arranged to meet her friend at a different bar or at a different time; if Ms Everard had left her friend's house 10 minutes earlier or later; if Ms Henry and Ms Smallman had chosen a different part of the park to have their picnic, it could have been different women facing the final few hours of their lives. It could be any woman - even if she had followed the rules. headtopics.com
Academic studies have examined the ways in which women and girls trade their freedom to feel safer. One ofthe largest studies conducted on sexual harassment in Europefound that almost half of the 42,000 women surveyed had restricted their freedom of movement based on the fear of gender-based violence.
Prof Liz Kelly, the director of the child and woman abuse studies unit at London Metropolitan University, coined the term "safety work", to describe the strategies women develop in response to their experiences in public. Often done without thinking, these precautions become ingrained as habit, or "common sense".
And we all do it. We all make sure we have a fully-charged phone and do that spikey weapon-grip with our door keys at the same time as checking nobody is following us inside. We text when we are "home safe" and wait up until we hear the same from our companions. This is normal. This is accepted. This is part of being a woman.
The tips offered by police and other organisations perpetuate the idea of safety work: take a longer route if it's busier and better lit; search for a Tube carriage with other women in; wear flat shoes for the walk home (in case you have to run).image caption headtopics.com
Sarah Everard had been walking to her home in Brixton when she disappearedAs Prof Kelly says, the "necessity of safety work steals our time and our energy - being vigilant means it is seldom possible to just be in public space, to feel joy in exercise or notice the changing seasons".
After Sarah Everard went missing, Met Police commissionerCressida Dick tried to reassure women that incidences of abduction and murder were "incredibly rare".And it's true - women account for about a third of all murders and of those, only 13% are killed by a stranger. Most are victims of a partner or ex-partner. It is far more likely that we will be killed at home than in a park.
So it's a balancing act - women have to take the precautions society deems reasonable while also trying not to overreact to dangers we're told are uncommon enough to be negligible.Dr Fiona Vera-Gray, an assistant professor at Durham University, uses
the term "the right amount of panic"."This won't ever happen to you. Except if it does, because for some of us it will, it will be your fault for not being scared enough. Don't panic enough and it's your fault, but panic too much and you're hysterical." headtopics.com
image source,image captionBibaa Henry, 46, and 27-year-old Nicole Smallman were stabbed to death in a Wembley parkAnna Birley, a co-founder of campaign group Reclaim These Streets, said: "We often get told when the worst happens that the murder of a woman by a stranger in a public place is very rare and we are very safe.
"But the thing is, our lived experience of street harassment - cat-calling, a man exposing himself to us - tells us we're not safe, and murder is rarely the first crime someone commits."We shouldn't be looking to solutions that require women to change their behaviour.
"Women should be able to walk five minutes across a park at any time of day or night without fear of violence."image source,Getty ImagesIn an ideal world, everyone would live their lives unmolested. It would be safe to amble down dark alleys or across parks, whether sporting a diamond-encrusted miniskirt and platinum noise-cancelling headphones or a sackcloth boiler suit and an air of high alert.
But until we get to that utopia, if it is even achievable, is the advice offered by police and various safety charities actually something that protects women? If we disregard the hugely problematic narrative of victim-blaming, are they pragmatic - if unpalatable - tips that would keep us safe from stranger danger?
The deaths of Ms Nessa, Ms Everard, Ms Henry and Ms Smallman would suggest not.They followed the "rules" and still got murdered. Ms Everard's killer wasn't put off by a brightly-lit busy road and plenty of CCTV cameras. The man who murdered Ms Henry and Ms Smallman was untroubled by the women not being alone and defenceless.
image source,Getty ImagesThe cases above are the high-profile ones. There will have been a strata of incidents in which women were attacked but not fatally. In which someone tried to pull or persuade them into a car but were shaken off. In which a man said something sexually aggressive that didn't lead to a physical assault but did leave the woman upset and frightened and angry.Read more: BBC News (UK) »
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