'I beat my addiction, but alcoholism killed my son'

5/1/2022 2:17:00 AM

'I beat my addiction, but alcoholism killed my son'

'I beat my addiction, but alcoholism killed my son'

Fred Parry has called for better access to recovery services in Scotland after his son died aged 32.

The 66-year-old says recovering from alcoholism was the best thing that ever happened to him, and is now a cellist, a music teacher, a husband and father.Image caption,"Quite often we can get angry with addicts - for families it's torment when they see what it does to a loved one.

"We have this conception of what an alcoholic looks like - Adam didn't present like that," he said.His addiction began to take over when he started studying chemistry at the University of St Andrews - he had failed exams which led to him dropping out altogether.

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Media caption, Father who beat addiction watched his son die from alcoholism Fred Parry credits his 20-year sobriety to the time he spent in Castle Craig, a private rehab clinic in the Scottish Borders.Levi Bellfield fathered a secret son weeks before killing Milly Dowler, a woman claims today.Sat 30 Apr 2022 10.“For Kit, being an addict, it’s very important for him to recognise himself as such.

The 66-year-old says recovering from alcoholism was the best thing that ever happened to him, and is now a cellist, a music teacher, a husband and father. When his son Adam began battling addiction, Mr Parry sent him to the same clinic in the hope that he would also recover. The mum, who alerted police, says it was “the mistake of my life”. But on 6 May, 2021, Adam died in his room after a suspected withdrawal seizure. Anyone who gets the recommended eight hours’ sleep is awake for just 16 hours a day – I apparently spent several hours more than that using my phone. He was 32. She says she fell pregnant on the one-night stand and she has spent two decades hiding the truth from her son, for fear it will leave him “broken”. Image caption, Adam Parry died age 32 after a suspected alcohol-related seizure "I couldn't get into his room to see him, I had to get the fire brigade to get in," said Mr Parry.

"It was horrific, absolutely horrific. Get all the latest news sent to your inbox. Being glued to my phone is virtually a career necessity, even if I am guilty of spending an excessive amount of time on the game Tents and Trees , too. It shouldn't have happened. "Quite often we can get angry with addicts - for families it's torment when they see what it does to a loved one. He murdered Milly, students Amelie Delagrange and Marsha McDonnell – and attempted to murder schoolgirl Kate Sheedy. "But I also was aware of the torment that Adam was going through, he was tortured but he couldn't find a way out. I make an adjustment for that, but the real figure isn’t much better: around nine hours a day." Mr Parry, from Glasgow, described Adam as a well-spoken, highly intelligent young man who was always reading two or three books at a time. But the police documents reveal the woman referred to “the worst mistake of my life” and told officers the stress and guilt of harbouring the secret had led to her suffering depression.

"We have this conception of what an alcoholic looks like - Adam didn't present like that," he said. Image caption, Adam, left, and his younger brother Fraser His addiction began to take over when he started studying chemistry at the University of St Andrews - he had failed exams which led to him dropping out altogether. The mum, in her first ever interview, said of her claims: “This is something I’ve kept a secret for more than 20 years.) Perhaps, I tell myself, a bit of a break from my smartphone is in order. After growing frustrated with Community Alcohol Treatment (CAT) staff, Mr Parry paid £15,000 for Adam to attend rehab at Castle Craig - which he said helped Adam stay sober for about three years. When Mr Parry attended the service in 2000, he said it was paid for by the NHS and social care. “I’ve kept it quiet for such a long time, I haven’t even been able to speak his name. But in 2017, when Adam was offered a place at the University of Glasgow, his sobriety began to slip. I don’t want to lose my job, so I make sure I’ll still be able to access the internet and all its functions via laptop, provided I use it only at home or in the office.

Image caption, Adam dropped out of the University of St Andrews after his addiction worsened "Through all this whole period of time we believed Adam had some mental health problems that ran in conjunction with his addiction," said Mr Parry. “He’s just a gentle boy, he’s never asked who his dad is. "But trying to get those addressed was impossible. Seeing a psychiatrist wasn't going to happen. I don’t know what to do. What’s it like for the heaviest of heavy phone users to go cold turkey? One school of thought suggests I’ll feel more in the moment, more observant, more connected to the people I’m physically with. The help he was offered was very piecemeal, the onus was on him to turn up at a certain place, a certain time. "It seems that when you're suffering from addiction your life is chaotic, you don't know what time of day it is or what day of the week, yet you're expected to turn up at certain appointments. "What if I die one day and he finds out his dad is a serial killer and I’ve not told him the truth? If I died tomorrow and he finds out and I’ve not told him, will he hate me? “How do you tell him? It would be easier for me if Levi died in prison, but even then I wouldn’t tell my son.

" 'All you can do is lock them up' Eventually, while unemployed and living with his parents, Adam's drinking became more erratic. I have my trusty new Nokia 105 up and running. His father said he would spend benefits money on alcohol, then wean himself off when he ran out of money - a process which led to his hospitalisation from alcohol-related seizures. He is already known to have at least 11 children by three other women. In the six months before his death he was in hospital six times from seizures. The family wanted to send him back to rehab, but they could not afford it - meanwhile Mr Parry said that often, Adam was too unwell to consent to further treatment as his health deteriorated. She says he ushered her into a VIP section and plied her with champagne, before serenading her with the 1976 Real Thing hit, You To Me Are Everything. My friend asks if he’s boring me. Now, he wants the Scottish government to improve access to addiction treatment services, including residential rehab.

Mr Parry said: "I was told by one of the doctors there's nothing you can do for an alcoholic, all you can do is lock them up and throw the key away - I was told that in front of Adam in the hospital. Recalling that night, she says: “I was a single mum and I had been single for quite a long time. "[Rehab] would have been the treatment of choice for Adam. I get in touch with Chris Atkins, author and producer, who served just under 30 months for a film-finance tax fraud. But unfortunately Adam didn't need just six weeks in rehab, he needed a lot longer with a proper structure when he came out of rehab. He started talking to us when we were in the queue and paid me a lot of attention through the night." Record drug deaths In August, National Records of Scotland statistics showed that deaths caused by alcohol had risen to their highest level in a decade. They rose by 17% from the previous year to 1,190 - the highest figure since 2008. “At one point he went to the DJ and requested a song, then he stood there singing it to me on the dance floor. My Nokia ringtone is loud.

The Scottish Conservatives have proposed a Right to Recovery Bill which would protect the right to addiction treatment in law - which would include residential rehab. On Friday, the party said a public consultation suggested about 77% of respondents supported the bill. “It’s terrifying to know I was in the same car he used to snatch Milly. The party's Shadow Health Secretary Dr Sandesh Gulhane said: "We believe right to recovery is a crucial part of the solution and I'm delighted to see the extremely positive response to it from stakeholders, who recognise it's a common-sense bill drawn up in consultation with experts in the addiction field. “It’s more that lots of people in jail are quite young and they use social media to connect with family, friends and girlfriends. "At the moment, too many people with addiction problems are unable to access the help they need, but this legislation would enshrine in law their right to receive potentially life-saving treatment, including residential rehab. “Once we got back to mine he came on to me." .