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You need to restrict your erotic practices to those in which you can achieve proper physical distancing.
You need to restrict your erotic practices to those in which you can achieve proper physical distancing. Illustration: Guardian Design
You need to restrict your erotic practices to those in which you can achieve proper physical distancing. Illustration: Guardian Design

Is there a safe way for me to enjoy casual sex during the coronavirus crisis?

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I have always practised safe sex. Is it possible to find a way to engage in sex with strangers during the current situation?

I enjoy casual sex and although it’s not always that easy to be safe, I believe I can do it safely enough to protect against sexually transmitted diseases. But Covid-19 is another story. Can I now have sex with strangers and avoid the risk of contracting coronavirus?

I’m not sure if Covid-19 can penetrate latex, but in any case you need to restrict your erotic practices to those in which you can achieve proper physical distancing. There is really no way to safely get close enough to strangers for sex without a hazmat suit, and the erotic cachet of that scene would be extremely limited. Erotic phone or online conversations would be safest, during which it is possible to recreate any kind of fantasy scenario you can imagine. Think of these trying times as opportunities to expand your erotic creativity using different media platforms. Stay safe!

  • Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.

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