“I have been beaten up and mentally hurt by the one that I thought is my life partner .”
It took her two months to open up about her distressing experience as a victim of domestic violence . The post Malaysian Woman Opens Up About Domestic Abuse, Urge Victims Like Her To 'Speak Up' appeared first on theAsianparent - Your Guide to Pregnancy, Baby & Raising Kids.
But some things are inexcusable (read: domestic violence) even if it comes to someone whom you may deem as your ‘life partner’. One woman was finally able to summon her courage in an effort to bring hope to those who need it.“I have been beaten up and mentally hurt by the one that I thought is my life partner”It took Belle Loh, a woman in Malaysia, two months to open up about her distressing experience as a victim of domestic violence.
“Dear all I know I have been silent for quite some time and I would like to share this with everyone,” Loh wrote in a Facebook post (24 Jul). The post was accompanied by a series of videos and pictures detailing the abuse incident that allegedly took place on 27 May 2020.
Loh said she returned home at 10pm on 27 May to find her husband “drunk and high on drugs”. He also “started being aggressive”.“I have been beaten up and mentally hurt by the one that I thought is my life partner,” she said. Image source: Facebook screengrab headtopics.com
Huge bruises on the underside of Loh’s arm as well as swelling around her eyes were observed.Image source: Adapted from Facebook/Belle LohApart from the physical abuse inflicted on Loh, Loh’s husband also threw her clothes out of their house.Image source: Facebook screengrab
The corridor was filled with a huge pile of Loh’s clothes strewn across the floor.Story continuesImage source: Facebook/Belle LohIn one of the videos uploaded, Loh’s husband could be heard hurling a string of verbally abusive messages which appeared to be directed to Loh’s father.
“You want to tell me that you want two thousand when your f***ing father doesn’t even earn one thousand? Loser, f***ing f***! Only knows how to do his funny s***. F*** him! This f***ing loser, I’ll kill him!” The violence did not end there. According to Loh, her husband has “harassed” her family members and even labelled them as “cheapskate.”
Loh also shared some screenshots of a text message conversation between her and her husband, who wants Loh to return the ring and phone he gifted her. Image source: Facebook/Belle LohImage source: Facebook/Belle LohFrom their conversation, the couple is presumably looking into a divorce. In the screenshots, it can be seen that her husband had consulted with his lawyer on the division of assets. headtopics.com
“My lawyers said you can’t sell what’s mine,” Loh’s husband warned Loh against keeping or selling the ring. According to him, the ring is “a gift on condition” that they are married. Otherwise, Loh will not get to keep it. He also backed up his words after further consultation with his lawyer: “if you try to sell it without my approval that is against the law and can be used against you in the case (sic).”
“Just give it back along with my phone and you and your dad can get a job and earn that money yourselves,” he said. A Lifelong TraumaFrom this harrowing incident, Loh shared: “No women deserve to be beaten up by a man”.She urged those who are victims of abuse to “please speak up about it because it is not a joke or something that you should be ashamed of (sic)“.
“Being abused is not something that you could just brush off but it is a lifelong trauma that I have to deal with (sic)”.Simple Reporting Goes a Long WaySince the start of the circuit breaker period, Singapore has reported a 22 per cent increase in reports of family violence-related offences, according to the Singapore Police Force (SPF).
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse and facing distress, do not hesitate to report such cases to the Police. In case of immediate threat, you can call the police at 999 or go to your nearest neighbourhood Police Post or Centre for help. headtopics.com
You may also contact your nearest Family Service Centre for help, or dial the below helplines if you need someone to talk to:You can view Loh’s full post here.For Loh, it might have been two months before she spoke up, but for some others, it could have been years of suffering in silence.
We hope that the sharing of Loh’s account of her experiences would help those facing similar situations to gather courage and hope in stepping out from the shadow of their abusers.ALSO READ: Woman, 39, Arrested After Bloody Fight With Husband in Punggol Flat
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